Why High Performers Struggle with Relationships with Jason VanRuler

Why do high performers seem to struggle with their personal relationships? Our guest today is Jason VanRuler, a licensed therapist and author of "Get Past Your Past." Jason provides eye-opening insights into why high performers often struggle with personal relationships. He explains that while high performers excel in business by applying certain success strategies, these same strategies can fail in personal relationships. Jason emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, identifying safe people, isolation vs. self-isolation, and the need for intentional and consistent relationships (and grieving the ones that no longer fit).

We discuss the concept of "max awareness" in therapy, where people are more aware of their issues but often fail to take actionable steps to improve their relationships.

Notable Timestamps:

• [00:02:42] Relationships for high performers.
• [00:06:40] The impact of self-isolation.
• [00:09:16] Seeking healing versus seeking comfort.
• [00:11:55] Three Levels of vulnerability.
• [00:15:02] Deep conversations at parties.
• [00:19:15] Evolving friendships in midlife.
• [00:28:34] Vulnerability in relationships.
• [00:29:17] Love shouldn't be a secret.
• [00:34:23] Redefining values for happiness.

Jason VanRuler Links:

• Instagram
• Get Past Your Past Book
• Website

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