The Friendship That Faces Comparison and Envy (Christine)

When Shasta met Christine, a fellow author and speaker, she was everything Shasta wanted to be: she had just published a book, she’d been interviewed on TV, and she had a press kit. Shasta was green with envy. We’ve all been there—a friend has more money, goes on cooler vacations, is happily in love while we just went through a breakup. We wish we had their job, body, house, or relationship. It’s inevitable to feel jealousy and envy sometimes, but how do we make sure our feelings don’t jeopardize our friendships? Today, Shasta and Christine dish on all the icky emotions they’ve experienced and share how they’ve been able to get back to a place of peace. They also reflect on how they’ve been able to be candid about their envy while keeping the friendship feeling positive. Finally, Shasta teaches how to distinguish between the different types of jealousy and envy so that we can choose the wisest response.

In this episode, Shasta and Christine answer the questions:

• What is the difference between jealousy and envy?
• How can you distinguish between unreliable and reliable jealousy?
• How do you cheer for a friend when you’re feeling envious of them?
• How can envy lead us to personal growth and empowerment?
• When you’re feeling envious, how can you shift your mindset to a more positive one?
• Should you tell your friend if you’re feeling envious of them? How can communicating about envy or insecurities deepen your relationship?

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Resource Links:

• Learn more about the Inner Mean Girl in Christine’s book: Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving Yourself
  • Christine’s other books on self-love, personal leadership, well-being, and burnout: https://christinearylo.com/books/ 
• Listen to Christine’s podcast
• Take the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability Quiz
  • Learn more about the Frientimacy Triangle, and jealousy and envy in friendship, in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness
• More of Shasta’s books on belongingness and human connection:
  • Friendships Don’t Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends
  • The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time
• Learn more about Shasta’s CoachingCircles

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