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When you believe the PMDD Stories in your mind it holds you captive in what can become a damaging relationship
We all know that when we are in PMDD we tell ourselves stories, specifically when we are arguing with our partners
Once you assign a meaning and reasoning behind the lies it makes them true
If you believe that your partner isn’t attracted to you, then you will begin to feel that way around them whether they have stated that or not. What we believe we create, especially about our PMDD partners. How many times have you told yourself that your partner feels a certain way about you without them ever even mentioning it? Even if your partner denies it, you still believe it because the negative thought is cemented into your mind.
How do you get rid of it? By speaking it and acknowledging the truth. In this case the truth may be that you do not feel comfortable in your own skin, in your body and you are assuming that your partner feels the same way. We let go of the negative thoughts by embracing the truthful ones. The truth may be that your partner loves and adores your body exactly how it is and has no issue with you physically at all.
First is to acknowledge all of the negative and ugly thoughts you are thinking. Don’t try and deny them, cover them up or make them seem like they are not driving you crazy
Next, I want you to write them out. It doesn’t matter if you type it or hand write it. I want you to be raw and honest and get it all out.
Next I want you to share it with your partner. Yes share it with them because this is an intimacy tool. When you allow your ego to take control, no intimacy and vulnerability is present. By sharing the bad and the ugly truth of your thoughts with your partner you are letting them back in and this will ultimately bring you all closer. Yes they are initially going to attempt to defend themselves from what you wrote but what’s most important is that they now know what you have been carrying around and they will begin to think, “This is why they have been treating me this way, this is why they have been closed off….because they believe this!” This will be relieving to you and eye opening to your PMDD partner. This is not about proving who is right or wrong but it about asking the hard question of “Is my story the truth or a lie?” Once you know this you can move forward in knowing that the PMDD stories that you have been telling yourself are just that….stories and not the truth about you or your partner. This will help connect to your partner again in your relationship.
If this is something that you and your partner have been struggling with and its impacting your relationship and you know you need help then contact me to book a session at www.inlovewithpmdd.com or on Instagram @inlovewithpmdd and we can go through this technique together and I will provide you with a customized eBook following your session so that anytime you and your partner start allowing these stories to cause you stress in your relationship and ultimately make your PMDD symptoms worse, you can use these PMDD relationship techniques to turn your relationship around that very same day. I truly believe that having PMDD and an intimate relationship is one of the hardest things in the world to endure and that is why I am here to ensure that we all deserve to have the supportive relationship that we desire and deserve. You Got This!
~Rose
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