Ask A Man 29 Aug '24: 'Am I selfish for not wanting another baby with my partner?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner since high school, however, in their matric year he impregnated another girl, she also fell pregnant around the same time and they continued with their relationship. 

Anonymous says they’ve been together for 24 years now but he did have an affair with another woman for about 2 years 10 years ago, but they’ve since moved on from that. Anonymous says they had agreed they would not have more kids, however, he has now changed his mind and as a result of family pressure, he wants to have another child, but she’s not interested. 

Anonymous says she doesn’t want another child as she feels like she doesn’t have the capacity to raise another child. Anonymous says this has now caused a rift in their relationship and she’s not sure if she’s being selfish for not wanting to have another child.