94: Disorganized Attachment In Dating And Relationships With Thais Gibson

Sitting down with Sabrina today is Thais Gibson, co-founder of The Personal Development School, which focuses on attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant (or disorganized). She and Sabrina talk about the different attachment styles to lay the groundwork for this conversation. Secure attachment develops when a caregiver is attuned, leading to fulfilling relationships. Anxious attachment often arises when parents are loving but absent, leading to fear of abandonment. Dismissive avoidants experience emotional neglect and struggle with feeling trapped. Fearful avoidants grow up in chaotic environments, resulting in conflicting desires for love and connection while fearing them. Thais shares her experience with disorganized attachment, where strong feelings of love triggered fear, causing her to shut down and push people away. Sabrina and Thais emphasize the importance of understanding attachment styles, showing empathy for internal struggles, and maintaining clear, kind communication. In relationships, anxious and avoidant types can work together if both are willing to grow and communicate effectively. Healing disorganized attachment involves reprogramming core wounds, understanding personal needs, and learning self-regulation and healthy boundaries. The journey is challenging but transformative.

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