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380 What I Share Is What I Get Back January 2018 Monday Week 3
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What I Share Is What I Get Back
“People say New Yorkers can't get along. Not true. I saw two New Yorkers, complete strangers, sharing a cab. One guy took the tires and the radio; the other guy took the engine.”
~David Letterman
A philanthropist can give their money to those less fortunate, a warrior can give their life to help the cause, an artist can give their talent to create beauty…and those who worry and fret, get back what they give into the world…more worry and fear.
We’re all married to something in this world. Whether you’re in a romantic relationship or not, we are connected to what we focus upon. So, you’re either married to your problems and sadness, or you’re married to your growth and happiness. We either adore worry and fear, or we participate in love and hope. There’s no in-between, you cannot focus on two things at the same time, so when you focus on fear, worries, and sadness you make a vow to commit towards living in sin. And not necessarily the sin of the Ten Commandments, but a deeper folly of chaining ourselves unnecessarily…the continually act of self-corruption.
And while I am going to get into some of the Christian Bible today, this is not to speak about religion, but to speak about love. The highest commandment of all.
“Jesus said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.”
But how can you love God, how can you love your neighbor if you don’t love yourself? Because when we focus on fear, when we choose to make that our home, when we decide to stay in our anxieties and worries instead of assessing them and moving through them—then we aren’t loving ourselves. We are actively choosing to hate ourselves. And maybe that might sound like a strong statement, but think about a good friend who was in trouble—would you tell them to stay in their fear, would you let them destroy themselves down a path you know that you could help them turn away from? No, you wouldn’t. Yes I know we don’t control anyone, but the people we love we want the best for them, and we try our best to help them, to guide them, and to be there for them so they don’t live in fear and anger. And if we would do that for others, why don’t we do that for ourselves?
When I’m working with new life coaching students, I work to help them be aware of all the negative things they’ll say in a day. And in this first phase, they become very sad during this time. And I play dumb not knowing what’s going on, as I ask them why they are so upset. They tell me that they were so excited in seeing the places they were negative about at first, but as they did more of this mindful exercise, they realized they were getting more negative. They felt that by them focusing on their negativity that it was bringing out more negativity in them.
I listen to them so they can get out everything they need to say; and after they’re done speaking, I bring a higher awareness to them. I tell them that they weren’t getting more negative…they were becoming more aware. You see, we literally are clueless to how much we focus on negativity and problems in our lives. We don’t see how much worry we have in our life. And we don’t see all the negative things we say about a situation, about other people, and about ourselves. We’ve become married to our problems, and what we put out into the world is exactly what’s returned to us.
We all know that famous quote in the Bible that’s used at weddings… You know, “love is patient and love is kind…” but do you know what’s said before all those famous verses that we almost know by heart?
Let me share it with you:
“If I speak in human and angelic tongues- but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.”
We are all married to something in our lives…
-Will you be married to worry, anger, fear, anxiety, hopelessness, and self-deprecation?
-Or will you be married to love of self, love of others, and love of the situation no matter what’s going on?
Because what we put out into the world is what is returned back to us. What we give is like a wheel. Life is a cyclical pattern. And so if we give more love to ourselves, we give it more fully into the world; and thus that love is returned to us. But if we practice more fear, self-hate, and worry…it’s returned to us like a wheel with its brakes on. It will not move, we will not move…we trap ourselves by thinking that living…consists in merely surviving.
So in essence, if we speak in human and angelic tongues, if we have the gift of prophecy and knowledge, if we have faith, and if we give away everything we own…but do not have love. Then we are nothing. The pattern starts within, when we love ourselves, we can love our neighbor, we can put a higher love into the world; and in return, we will be returned more love to continue the process of being not only mindful of what we’re doing, but aware of what we truly can be.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What are you sharing into the world? If you’re able to do this exercise right now, stop everything and let your intuition talk. Write down at the top of a piece of paper “What Am I Sharing Right Now.” And then begin listing all the things you’re putting out into the world in your current status right now.
Don’t write down what you hope to be putting out, don’t write down what you don’t want to be putting out, just be real and write down what you are putting out…with no filters. After you write your list down, look over it and ponder on it for awhile. Don’t ponder on judgment, just look at it to become aware of what you’re doing. You aren’t a good or bad person for what you’re doing, you just are you at the moment…unaware.
And now that you’ve thought about what you’re putting out into the world, write down:
Be the wheel that moves, be the cyclical part that shares love internally and externally…instead of the wheel that focuses on fear, anger, and self-hate. Don’t be the wheel with the brakes on. Be the wheel that gives kindness, hope, faith, and love freely and purposefully.
So let us not be worried about seeing our fears and think that we’re getting worse for viewing them, let be different. Let us have to courage to view them to become more aware. Let us learn to love ourselves, so that we can love the world back. And let us reap the benefits naturally, by putting great things out so great things will return to us.
In marriage we make the vow until death do us part…what are you bonding yourself to? Make it to something good.
What I Share Is What I Get Back
Thanks for listening to The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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