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422 My Disappointments Guide Me To Better Decisions February 2018 Monday Week 5
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My Disappointments Guide Me To Better Decisions
We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment. Jim Rohn
I remember watching a comedy called Meet The Millers With Jennifer Anniston and Jason Sudeikis. It’s a silly premise where the main character creates a fake family to smuggle in a shipment from Mexico because he got involved with the wrong people and needs to correct his mistake. And the funniest part of the movie for me is when the fake daughter is hanging out with a tattooed boy who doesn’t seem too bright.
Jason who plays the fake father says to the young man sarcastically “hey those are some cool tatts man” and the young gentleman says “thank you bro” as he looks them over with pride and then the boy points to his arm quite beamingly and says “you see the cobra?”
And then Jason says “what’s that one?” as he points to the boy's neck. And the boy opens up his shirt, so you can see the tattoo better and he says, “that’s my ‘creedo.’ No REGRETS…” but he doesn’t realize it’s spelled wrong as it’s spelled R A G R E T S.” And Jason says back to the young man, “you have no regrets?” and the boy responds “nope.” Then Jason says “not even a single letter?” and the boy responds again “no way, not me.” And Jason finishes off the scene even more sarcastically saying to his fake daughter “I love him, he’s a real winner Casey.”
I’ll include the clip in my blog post on my site.
Every mistake, every disappointment, and every moment that we wished we could get back…they weren’t errors in our lives. They were chances for us to come to a higher awareness. I know it’s easier said than done to have no regrets, and I’m not saying we shouldn’t ever regret anything, but maybe we should look differently at regrets.
I love acronyms because they help me remember lessons better. I’ll give some famous acronym examples to help you get on my excitement for acronym bandwagon.You remember the frozen yogurt stores TCBY? Well, TCBY stands for The Country’s Best Yogurt. In fact, it used to stand for This Can’t Be Yogurt until they were sued by the company I Can’t Believe It’s Yogurt. Or another one you might not know is the word TASER, you know for the TASER gun, well that stands for Thomas A. Swift’s Electrical Rifle.
We could go on for days about acronyms we didn’t know about, but let's get into my acronym to remember how to reframe looking at regrets. The guilt we feel about something we wish we didn’t do will keep us from living our best lives in the present moment. So let’s reframe REGRET to help you heal from your past pains and begin living more within peace and joy for your life.
REGRET stands for
Realizing
Every
Goodbye
Resolves
Eventually
over Time.
Now I used the word “over” in front of time, so I hope you can forgive me for putting in the connecting word to help the phrase make more sense.
What I want to remind you and myself of when we say this acronym, is that all those bad things we’ve been holding onto…we’re saying goodbye to them. All those things that we’re upset about, all those pains that are hurting us in the moment and all the guilts we may feel will resolve themselves out over time.
And it’s not because we never think about our mistakes ever again, almost certainly to repeat them since we didn’t learn. But it’s that we’ve become more aware by saying the REGRET acronym when we are feeling regret. We say the acronym to awaken us to better ways of healing and learning from our mistakes.
The human will is a formidable force and when we keep moving forward knowing that every mistake is a lesson, and that every regret isn’t a goodbye to something bad, but a hello to something beautiful over time. Then we are eternally growing.
So think about it like this, you realize that your disappointments have guided you to better decisions…well hopefully. Some people choose never to learn, but we may have to go through disappointment after disappointment to finally engrain in our brain that this way isn’t working. And the more in tune we become with our intuition, then the more we will hear those little voices in our head, and those subtle cues in our body, warning us something isn’t right.
I was working with a life coaching student of mine, and at the end of our session I asked what we wanted to focus on for the next week, and she said…”I want to pay more attention to those little voices in my head that are telling me what I need to do at the moment.” She was burned out in her life and those voices would tell her what her mind and body needed. It was saying “take a nap, you haven’t eaten yet; you need to get something in your stomach,” or it might say “if you only spend a few minutes on organizing you won’t be so overwhelmed.”
She said that those small voices were the ones that when she listened to them, they always brought her to a place of balance. It was the good voice within telling her what she needed. And we do that a lot in our lives, we drown out that intuiton, and we listen to the more destructive voice inside. Or we drown out all the voices and just do whatever we feel NEEDS to be done by forcing things because we have so much left to do. So we try to cram it all in, and as fast as we can into one day.
Maybe if we listened a little more to our intuition guiding us…we might have less regrets. But if we can remember that a regret is Realizing Every Goodbye Resolves Eventually over Time, it will be a pathway to opens doors.
They say that for every door that closes in your life another will open. And it’s a nice sentiment to say, but when you are in the thick of things it can be easy to let anxiety grip you. And I could wave my magic wand and tell you I have the answer for everyone, but that would be a lie. I think it comes down to a multitude of things, but maybe it’s about finding something to place your attention on when going through hell.
Maybe it’s the smile of a loved one, or the remembrance of a good conversation with a great friend, or maybe it’s the calm knowing that your creator has something more in store for you. Maybe it’s a past triumph and you remember how great your body felt after that success.
So let us find a higher truth and know that the mistakes in your life weren’t meant to destroy, but to build you up and bring something better to you. I may not be able to look into a crystal ball to tell your fortune, but I think I can tell you your future right now. You have a great one ahead of you. There will bumps and bruises, but each one will be worth it as you get to know the amazing you.
So when going through your personal hells, remember to say the acronym REGRET out loud or in your mind, and focus on a past success or something you love. Because when it feels like that’s all you can hold onto…I think it will be enough.
And if you are going to regret anything, regret being regretful…ok that was stupid. Next.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
Practice saying the acronym REGRET to yourself and see how it sounds. Maybe you might have a better acronym for going through a tough time in your life. SO see if you can create an acronym that will help you remember a better way.
And if you create a cool one I’d love to hear it and share it with the Strong Within One Percenters crew…that’s that I call you guys, my audience, if you didn’t know that.
My Disappointments Guide Me To Better Decisions
Meet The Millers “No RAGRETS”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjkLKKgOMRY
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
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- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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