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430 I Overcome What I Set My Mind To March 2018 Tuesday Week 2
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I Overcome What I Set My Mind To
“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.”
~Tony Robbins
Why don’t we change when we want to? Is becoming who we want to be that difficult? Is stopping the habits that are crippling us that hard?
It’s a nice idea to put the blame on our DNA, on our parents, on our partners, on our exes, on who or whatever will take to focus away from us and put it elsewhere…because we believe it feels better to avoid our problems than to come face to face with them.
But running from our addictions, our pains, and our fear and anxieties have only done one thing…running has kept bringing us back to all those things we were running from. What we run from pursues us; not because they are faster runners than us, but because when we run we don’t let go of them. We hold on tighter and close our eyes hoping not see those problems. When in fact the mere act of trying to avoid them actually brings us face to face with them.
And being face to face with a problem can be a great thing, if we decide to open our eyes and see how we can rise above them. The problem isn’t what is wearing us out, our inefficient ways with dealing the problems are wearing us out. It’s fun confronting problems that make us think and act differently, but when we don’t know how to deal with problems because we never seem to get over them…then we feel hopeless because nothing seems to work for us in overcoming the problems that plague us.
So we fight the problems, we run from them, or we work to anything we can to shake them from our lives…but it’s not that you have to shake them, it’s about understanding that you are NOT your problems.
We live in a world where we’re told that the answers are outside of us.
“Here take this pill it will be the answer to what ails you…oh by the way you have to take this for the rest of your life.”
“Here see this therapist they will cure what’s wrong with you. Or maybe read these books they will be your silver bullet.”
Now hear me clearly, I am not saying any of these things are bad; what I am saying is we have become over-reliant on other things to heal us…that we have trapped ourselves within our problems. We need something else to save us, and it sounds like a wonderful idea to just take something and our problems magically go away…but in reality the thing we took was only half the answer. We have to decide to heal ourselves no matter what…because NO pill will know the exact dosage to give you, no pill will know when to turn on and off in your body at the exact right times, no pill will have no side effects that maybe another pill might need to help out with.
The thing you take might have been the answer to help you to begin thinking change was possible, but we have come to believe that the outside fix was the fix; that the external measure we take was the thing that would heal us totally.
And sometimes the reason we believe that something else will be the end all be all answer for us, is because it’s nice to think that maybe we won’t have to struggle anymore from these problems that have been plaguing us for far too long. It’s nice to think there’s an answer for a problem that we thought we might not ever be able to fix.
But the external answer is only part of the story. YOU have to decide to want to heal, you have to decide to want to be different, you have to decide that it is possible to be different…to be healed.
I might be simplifying this a bit much…but you are not your problems…your problems are not you. When you understand this, then it’s no longer about running from them, fighting them, or hiding from them…it’s about knowing you were never a part of them.
The answers are simple, but they aren’t easy. Meaning that when you want to stop holding on so tight, you can release your grip little by little. I know some of the fears I held onto was because they were more comfortable than being confident.
I avoided speaking in front of audiences because I thought I could sit behind a computer and tell people what they need to do. I avoided helping people because I worried about being seen as not having all the answers and they would know I was a fraud…as I held more tightly onto the imposter syndrome instead of moving forward knowing I am not meant to heal everyone…just the ones who are ready to change and who align with me. I’ve kept my mouth closed during times when people needed me to defend them, whether they were there or not, because it was easier not to cause waves. I just told myself I wasn’t part of it, which was only lying to myself. What’s the saying “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing?”
I have known all my life how much easier it is to live in fear. But that’s the lie we’ve told ourselves, that doing nothing is better than stepping out to do what is right. We’ve told ourselves it’s better to not look like a fool by doing the right thing and maybe not doing it perfectly. We’ve told ourselves that being silent and not trying is better because no one will judge us harshly, as it’s safer to hide in the shadows than to step into the light of who we are called to be. But the only way we get better is to step out willing to make mistakes so we can get better.
So whatever pains, fears, anxieties, anger, frustrations, and hurt you’re dealing with…I believe the greatest way to change is to know you are not your problems…you are above them.
And how transformation happens is when the pain of staying the same is greater than the fear of changing. Change is a beautiful thing…and the more we live within the comforts of our fears…then the more we lie to ourselves by saying this a good way to live. Because no one really wants to avoid what could make them better; they really want to avoid what scares them. But when you do that you make fear your master, and you’ve resorted to living a life of lying to yourself. The lie that it feels better to be ordinary. That it feels better to stay the same. The lie that you wouldn’t be good enough to do what you want anyway.
And that is one of the saddest deaths we will ever go through…the death of our character because we have decided it’s more comfortable to live within fear.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
We need to become aware of how we are living in our fears. So, how have you allowed your fear to dictate who you are and what you think you can do?
I know this sounds like cliché BS, but the reason you aren’t doing what you want is because you have allowed your fears and your frustrations to control you. Sure there will be learning curves, and growing pains, in becoming who you want to be… but if something is important to you, then fear will not be a deterrent—it will be the ramp that is asking you to accelerate and jump through that ring of fire that’s burning behind it.
So write down the fears that are stifling your growth. Write down how you can run towards your fears; to challenge them and not let them win anymore, no matter how small of a step you need to take continuously toward it. Write down who will hold you accountable towards this fear. And then contact them and ask them to hold you accountable in whatever way you decide is reasonable for you And finally, write down how you will continually believe in yourself on this journey. Because what will help you towards becoming who you truly want to be in your life, is the continual vision of knowing you are WORTH the effort to put into making this happen, and then visualizing yourself being successful in making it happen.
The only obstacle in the way is you, so how will you step out of your way today?
I Overcome What I Set My Mind To
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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