Nag, nag, nag - I want to be your wife, not your mother!

Hi and welcome to Episode 156 of The Couples Expert. Our podcast today is something that most couples will relate to. When the source article for this topic came out there were over 4,000 comments and it was widely shared throughout social media. That’s not necessarily a prerequisite for Stuart to choose a topic, but this particular topic resonated with so many people that he decided to go ahead and use it for the podcast this week.

When wives feel like they do a dual role as wife and mother to their spouse it can become problematic. When Stuart ran this one past his wife, and asked her if it was an issue in their home, Debbie’s response was laughter and agreement. She had a list of things that helped Stuart understand that this is a topic relevant to a lot of couples.

When spouses and partners feel they’re filling a parental-type role within the relationship, it’s hard to see their partner as an equal and the relationship suffers not only in the communication aspect but also in their sexual relationship. This podcast today is about getting connected back into an equal footing in your relationship and losing that feeling of having to have a parental role in the relationship.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

The gender gap between men and women is a real thing 7:28 Your partner wants an equal in the relationship. THAT is sexy 10:24 How you can help each other with a true give and take relationship 14:16 Nothing should be more important than your relationship 18:27 You should be excited to help one another 19:37

If your wife was your little sister, would you be excited that they were married to someone like you? If the answer is no, then you have some work you need to do. You can be the partner that your partner deserves. You can change your ways and have a more equal partnership starting now.  

You both work hard to provide what you each need and for your home and family. Keeping that in context and in balance means it’s not always equal or 50/50. Often it means one gives more, but that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. Go out of your way to tip the scales in the other direction and let your partner be on the receiving end of your concern and care. Do something just to make him happy, just to give her a break.

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Next Week: Join Stuart next week as he discusses the issues surrounding age disparity in sexual relationships. We hope you'll tune in.

Thanks for spending part of your day with Stuart Fensterheim, The Couples Expert. Until next time, help each other and stay connected!