Session 99: Guilt, Shame, Empathy and the Bucket List

Here are the show notes from this episode:  May Hypnosis Training is sold-out! There are still about 4 spots for June. Melissa Tiers’ class is almost filled up, so look here… A smorgasbord of stuff today…

Word of the Day: PHYSICIAN

Guilt and Shame are not the same! Some people never get over shame… Guilt is about what you have or haven’t done…Shame is about who you are…Behaviour vs Identity Shame is ‘There’s something wrong with me!” Logical Levels are only a model, and the test of a model is whether or not it’s useful! Environment, Behaviour, Capabilities, Beliefs and Values, Identity, Purpose or Mission We did a whole podcast on Logical Levels in episode 74. Here it is on YouTube also. Chris does a really annoying and vaguely familiar voice for an extended Ken Sweatman-like period of time… People stuck at Environment respond as though life is happening to them…New Behaviours change the Environment… Capabilities (abilities) enable us to exhibit new Behaviours. Beliefs (and Values) effect our Capabilities… Watch out for the I AM statements! “Well I’m JUST an employee…” Guilt is at the level of Behaviour. A Scapegoat becomes the family garbage-can. They have Shame put upon them! Scapegoats often have to go NO CONTACT! Don’t accept shaming behavour from others, and don’t put shame on others! We all live our labels. Which ones are you living? Low self-esteem is really common with today’s college students…at least the ones Mike has met… Self-image should be accurate, not positive! Hitler had lots of self-esteem, and he was totally evil… We have to look into the Abyss…the Shadow side of our personalities… Be a rugged individualist and be ready to push back! Opposite of shame? It’s empathy. Self-acceptance and acceptance of others. Mike believes everyone carries the Imago Dei. We all have intrinsic worth. Empathy is second position in NLP terms! Mike started as a stage hypnotist, who relabelled himself as a communicator! Be careful what labels you take on! NLP, Hypnosis and a Bucket List! Mike wants to keep doing the same stuff because he loves what he does. Smart questions help you reach it! What do you need to do, or what needs to happen to make it happen? Use submodalities! Make a dissociated image of yourself, already having what you want… Daily self-hypnosis will help too! Unlock new ideas and consciously make them happen… The Pixel Method of Self-Hypnosis! The source is secret…but Mike’s admitting it’s not original to him…

Empowering Question:  What are the things I absolutely must experience before I run out of time, and how will I ensure I cause them to happen? What is the most important to me now…that I need to cause then…to make sure I miss absolutely nothing…and how will I start it happening…today…?

Empowering Metaphor: David Lang

Ending: A Criminal Mind

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