ComeToABC.com““If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses. If the person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church. Then if he or she won’t accept the church’s decision, treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector. (Matt. 18:15-17)Listen to your judging and blamingConnect with your observation (just the facts)Connect with your feeling (emotional response)Connect with your need Step #1 is to “Go TALK To The Person Who has Wronged You!”A.Express your ObservationB.Express your Feeling (Honesty is not nice… I am here even if it is difficult to be here)C.Express your NeedD.Express your Request (from should to can) Can you…Step #2 “ If they will not Listen Take one or Two more.”Step #3 “ If they refuse tell the community (church) publicly.”Step #4 “If this effort fails abandon this relationship”Love don’t hate… Don’t confuse Love with TRUST
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