A Self-loving approach to goal setting

Do you ever set goals and fail to achieve them? Or have you ever set yourself a goal and achieved it, only to feel underwhelmed and strangely apathetic about it all? Do you like setting New Year’s resolutions? Or does the very thought of them make you cringe? In this episode of You Are Infinitely Loved, we talk about our relationship to goal setting and how you can infuse more self-love into the process. For many people, the New Year can be a positive time of reflection, where you pause to take stock of your achievements and learnings from the previous year and think about what you most want to create for the year ahead. It can be a time that feels inspiring and motivating, which gives rise to a lot of New Year’s Resolutions. But for the majority of people, the inspiration and motivation doesn’t last, with one study suggesting that only 8% of people actually achieve their New Year’s goals. So what’s going on here? Why are so many people failing to follow-through on the resolutions that they set for themselves? In this episode, we talk about some of the reasons this might be happening - from unhealthy goal-setting to the difference between goals and habits and why sometimes setting goals can actually be counterproductive to creating the changes we want to make. We discuss the importance of intrinsic motivation, setting feelings-based goals and being kind to yourself in the pursuit of a goal.