How Cancer and Thoughts can change your life #28

"Think Carefully" by Pete Sanga #28

Tagline: "How cancer and thoughts can change your world for the better"

It is almost like we wait for something bad to happen to wake us up. For us to really take life serious and realise each day we lose, we will never gain again. Each second we spend not being grateful, happy or fulfilled is a second wasted. Yet when something bad happens, we can sometimes have a realisation that life is important, precious and beautiful.

Pete Sanga shares his story of how cancer and controlling his thoughts has massively changed his life and future. He speaks of tangible tips we can all use and incorporate to live a life of happiness, gratitude and fulfilment without having to go through cancer like he did.

A truly remarkable individual who gave off a beautiful energy and had an infectious aura about him. Someone much wiser than me with experience I was grateful to have received.

Some key discussion points:

1. Cancer being a gift
2. The importance of your thoughts.
3. How to change your thoughts.
4. Practical positive daily routines.
5. Understanding that we control more of our life than we think.
6. Age is nothing but a number.

I urge you to listen to this all the way through and implement some practical steps and tips that you can do for FREE in 10 minutes or less a day to really help you move forward in your life. These tips and tricks aren't just for cancer survivors, or people who have overcome adversity. They can and should be important practices we all take on in our life to truly make the most of this short amount of time we have on this earth.

Let's all start to find our voice today and write our own stories.

Let's leave our mark on this earth before it's too late.

Remember tomorrow never comes.

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YouTube transcript

[Music]

welcome to an episode of find your voice

a movement led by yours truly

Aren Deu a guy who has overcome

crippling anxiety adversity and

difficulty like so many of you in life

whose main goal now is to help you

combat your excuses take control of your

life write your own story and most

importantly find your voice so now

without further ado I welcome the host

of the show himself mr. Aren Deu what's

going on people thank you for tuning in

to another episode of fine your voice my

name is Aaron and as always I am the

host of the show so sitting here

thinking before I released this podcast

why is it that we always need something

bad to happen in our lives for us to

appreciate the good things or even the

smaller things the more beautiful things

that we often take for granted and maybe

this is just a human trait but it's

something that I'm trying to get through

in this movement I find your voice is

that I want you guys to start living

right now and I want you to find

something that fulfills you I want you

to be happy I want to live in gratitude

you see I put these stories out here for

you guys to listen to not to make you

feel miserable or to feel sad or start

to cry I put these stories out there to

show you how lucky you are you see we

are all very blessed and we're all very

lucky if we choose to see it that way

you see living in a moment of gratitude

is fantastic but living a day a week a

month a year in fact your whole life in

gratitude that's just so much better and

what I want you guys to do is to start

to take on these tips that we've

mentioned in this episode coming forward

but then go back and listen to the

people on this show who have shared

their story so bravely and so openly and

honestly and think about how your life

is maybe better than their life in terms

of you haven't had to suffer with cancer

you haven't had to suffer with blindness

you haven't had to be homeless for

example and then really start to look in

your own life and start to live with

gratitude because that is the key you

see we're all chasing happiness

happiness is a number

one goal and it should be the number one

goal for all of us and through that we

chase fulfilment as well and if you can

get those two in line then you're gonna

have a fantastic life but what I don't

want you to do is to wait until

something bad happens I don't want you

to have to experience cancer like our

guest today shares his experience and it

was actually cancer that actually gave

him his life back in almost now you

could see it he's loving his life and he

openly admits it as well

in this episode that it was cancer that

really made him start to live again but

I don't want none of us listening to

this show to have to go through cancer

in order to start living because we can

do it right now we can all go out there

and find our voice and really try and

start to write our own story so

hopefully you guys enjoyed this episode

it was fantastic for me because it did

exceed my expectations and if you do get

a chance please do hit us up on social

media as well we are quite active and

don't forget if you get a chance as well

please do share it with somebody else as

well

to maybe inspire and motivate them to go

out there and find their voice so

without further ado let's get this

interview on the way I'd like to start

this show by welcoming Pete to the show

and I want to thank Pete for taking time

out of his day today to come and share

his story so Pete thank you for coming

on to the show you know I'll come take

you things like him and you're very

welcome and really appreciate it I think

it's going to be useful for their

audience to get to know a bit about

yourself

so if you wouldn't mind if you can kind

of give us like a summary take as long

as you need in relation to the life of

Pete for example tell us some of your

ups tell us some of your dance and then

basically what brings you here today

perfect no problem and hi audience

I'm glad you listen it is and well why

you sort of story is I'm not a

multi-millionaire or anything like that

far from it but I live a very

comfortable life and it hasn't always

been like that

I mean I'm 53 years old so you can

imagine when my upbringing from my

parents how that was in a very strict

upbringing we was always sort of

monitored by our pens back in game days

with the early days of very few Asian

community in the UK and they had to sort

of build their reputation so we resorted

very close community

we have been declawed close community

parents always took hold of what you had

to do days basically sort of had your

life for yourselves in mahjong days and

I was kind of rebellious with my dad

because always always one that wanted to

do my own thing the way I want to but

course you have to have respect for your

parents and sort of listen to them as

well

so I as I said Oh print being invade

it's a tight community Asian community

and as a site to sort of get older and

going to school into sort of sixteen

seventeen this is where I sort of

started to understand that you know I

don't want to follow the footsteps of my

parents and Adorno follow the footsteps

of my brothers and sisters and Gaurav

University or anything like that I

didn't want to be stuck behind a desk

when that's what my parents wanted to be

I was more inclined to sort of looking

to I used to see it market and I think

wow I want to do that I don't want to do

that and you know that's how my thoughts

were and so as I got to about 16 17 I

started kind of rebelled against what my

parents wanted and but again same thing

you know you have to have some element

of respect for your pen so I still

followed them and I'll put till the ages

sort of 21 ish when I got married and

and we then brought her family business

and and again we started working in the

family business but it's not something

that I wanted it wasn't for me so even

though I worked in there and putting the

hours as long with my with my brothers

and it's not something that I wanted to

do and what really changed my mind

or changed me was when I became ill when

it was about round about 25 and at that

time I had two children and one of them

here and well two boys and I had contact

and sort of that's where that's what

really changed my perspective about life

and because when you fall into I mean oh

no people about cancer and they've cured

and they've come every but the initial

shock of that was like wow you know I

mean I remember sitting on the stage

with my wife and I'm telling my wife and

I'm sitting there crying my eyes out

thinking and your whole life goes by

here and especially when things like

that I mean nowadays you know they so

many curious for so many diseases but

when you're looking when you're going

back 20 odd years there was there wasn't

as many curious so you know you have

this flashback of your life and you

think wow I'm not gonna be here what's

my kids gonna do and all these thoughts

start to run through your head and you

know and I remember sitting under stairs

and said crying I like that and what dad

came in and he looked at this and he

went there what's the matter what you

crying for and at all my dad okay my hog

and even though and he was sort of

strong I could see sense that he it was

one of them things like wow you know

this is happening to my son and saying

you ever went through a treatment and

chemotherapy and he was in and out of

hospital I lost a lot of weight and I

you know sort of kind of lost confidence

as well because I was what I would say

was a greatly confident person but I was

quite confident in myself and I've lost

all my confidence as well and my sister

she gave me a book which was there your

guardian angels and as a while I was in

hospital I started to read this guide in

angels thinking what's this about you

know guardian angels and you just

totally changed my life in the sense of

we've just read good just reading the

book I thought wow this is there such

thing as this guardian angel is there

such thing as a spiritual world and

that's why where my spirituality came

out and from there you should have sort

of started to progress and as I came

once I was out of hospital and had done

my chemotherapy and fetal healthy I knew

that I had to do my own thing my own way

and I wanted to be and how I can

progress it wasn't always easy because

you always you have this and how pretty

you have this education or you have this

your your upbringing embedded into you

you see so then they're deep into your

subconscious mind so they always

flop back out and you start to think

well should I should I or shouldn't I

but I know I wanted to move away from

the family and do my own thing and which

is sort of what I started to do gonna

just pause for a bit or we can jump in

there so there are a couple of things in

relation to that so you always knew from

a very young age you mentioned like from

1617 you were you're probably different

to your siblings yeah you want to do

something different and I kind of I

could resonate with that myself so I was

forced in inverted commas to kind of go

through the academic route because I was

very I could pick up things very quickly

yeah I didn't want to do any of that

it was never my interest I always want

to kind of go against the grain I want

to be a boxer I wanted to do you cry I

want to do all the stuff I said on

television but he has different stuff

and there was an element that I suppose

somewhere along the line I kind of

resented the decisions and I was having

to like make my parents happy rather

make myself happy fortunately for me I

didn't have to experience kind sir in

order to really be like okay now I need

to just do what's done for me and it

kind of seems like cancer was your kind

of wake-up call a mass of thing

do you know what I have to look after

myself yeah and put myself first and it

was it's quite emotional for me just

thinking about that moment when you're

sitting on the stairs and you and you're

telling your family is stuff I just

thought this is just giving you a book

about the guardian angel and stuff I

think that's come probably a good time

because I absolutely did you agree that

if that come it should give you that

book yeah we'll probably thought once it

changes your perception of do you know

change started to change the way I'll

think and I need all honesty when I

start to read the book and I started to

sort of understand each chapter one at a

time I thought wow you know this is

amazing can this really be possible

could you elaborate on something from

that or something that you maybe do now

yeah of course yeah and so what I've

learnt from that book was of course it

started to open other doors and other

avenues in Lord of Attraction as as

people know it I don't know there's a

lot of it back now whereas when we was

younger it was it wasn't it wasn't about

what he's still about but we wasn't

aware of him but he's a lot more about

of it often now so and then you know I

don't know thousands if not millions of

people's heard of the secret and so then

that

book came into my hands and it was it

just happened to be that I went onto a

course and which is an angel course and

his spiritual core so as I went there

and this is the lady that was conducting

it her name was Angela so and she told

us about this secret and the secret

website so I wrote it down

suza go home was sort of jumped on the

website got the thing he got the DVD

because there's gotta be something

indecent what's what's so good about

this or anyway are played it and then

what made my two boys what it sat there

watching me and I was totally sort of

enclosed in this secret because that

what they were saying is your thoughts

become your reality this was for me it

was like a turning point because I

thought wow if that was the case and wow

I can create anything the one was with

the kids they were still young there

wasn't sort of so much interested in it

and so that's where he progressed from

so now you know I have a special routine

in the morning and a follow every day

and it's all due to this I guess I can

call it positive thing times Olivia and

it's all due to these positive thinking

and you know when you start to think in

a certain way certain doors will start

to open for you

but you have to trust in your way of

thinking and you have to trust in

yourself even though all throughout life

and even in today's day and age and how

fast forward we have become even today

you still have their thoughts you still

have to battle with your own mind

believe it or not and with your negative

thought you know you're constantly

fighting against them and like I said to

you know before we started you know you

have a thought you sort of you sort of

have a negative thought if you like and

before you know it your negative

thoughts your your conscious mind

starting tell you something and before

you know you're not that's spiraled into

your hair before blonde conversations

with yourself you know you're sitting in

your car and you're home or whatever and

you're talking to yourself and you're

having this complex it's conversation

with yourself and you're sort of

fighting with yourself you know one

voice against another and I don't know

if that makes sense you know you sort of

fighting with yourself and you really

have to start to understand your thought

and that's one of the things

learn to do is understand my thoughts

and when I'm having a thought like that

I instantly think to myself okay this is

this is the right thought no it's not

and I'll stop put a stop to the Thornton

right away because you are in control of

your own thinking nobody else controls

it for you so you know what you are

thinking so if you start to realize that

you was thinking something that's hasn't

even happened you can stop that thought

right away when you stop it do you

replace it with something or replace it

yeah you have to replace it with

something positive say for example if

you're having an emotional thought let's

just say something bad happened you know

you you're on your way you've got a

parking ticket or you or something like

that you don that's a negative thing and

the first thing you do when you get a

parking tickets in your effing and

blinding station and and you know and

you know then that you know be from that

anger anything of blinding thinking that

you know it starts to escalate so if you

right away realize all and this is this

is not right it you know what's what

could be good about there having a

parking ticket and then think of

something that these positive factors

are negative so when you start to think

of something positive I'm an 18 it could

well be this you might have had a

parking ticket you might have grabbed a

parking ticket God to speak today

conductor or whatever I'm bumped into

somebody who you spontaneously you know

bumped into somebody who is we put your

right you know you and you might have

you know anything could have happened

with those gratitude in having a car

absolutely yeah yeah anything you know

anything but as long as you sort of

realize that you're having this negative

thought and without letting this spun

out of control with hundreds of other

thoughts stop it right away stop it and

change you to find a positive in that

negative like I said it could be that

you've got you could be grateful to you

you've got him you come to meet make a

meeting absolutely if that you know he

was worried about your parking ticket

then you might not have gone on to that

meeting and gain something

okay knowledge or whatever it is you

know so if there's always a positive in

a negative and that's what you have to

sort of learn to do it's not the easiest

thing in the world who is there but with

practice it becomes perfect that's

interesting because this is just

meanness or cancers effective

my family is taking members of my family

aways it's affecting my family some of

them now so a very negative connotation

towards cancer I sometimes put myself in

a position and think if I was to ever

get cancer or something but a particular

point I just can't help but think that I

will feel sorry for myself at some stage

have you ever felt that yeah you do as I

said that you know it's it's it's not

your normal yeah absolute normal you

know you can't control your thoughts to

a degree well you can you can't because

when something as severe as cancer or

other illness hit you you can't see any

way out so of course it's not so for

anybody to think you know how would I

feel

but as I said earlier on you know you we

are you are in control of your thoughts

as long as you don't put emotion into

something it can never happen it's only

emotion that creates your reality when

you paint a picture of what you want and

how you want your life to be your

conscious and your subconscious mind

doesn't know the difference between

right and wrong

it just doesn't know the difference it

only responds to what your want picture

you're painting it so when you're young

as I said you know your pet your parents

have painted how your picture is going

to be so your subconscious mind then

when your conscious mind then has to

build your life around your parents

picture or the picture that you've

created or they're created not just your

parent it's society its school

everything and anything after the sort

of ages 10 when you develop fully

develop your conscious mind after the

age of 10 anything after that is what

your picture has been built on based on

your school your parenting or and

society itself you know you have to sort

of try to understand your thoughts you

think there's a lot and as long as you

can control or though what you're

thinking you can always change it the

hardest part of changing something is

that you have to change all your soft

conscious if people understand what that

means if they don't then I went to

highly recommend

looking into that because it's a very

very powerful part of us it's a part of

our mind and can create reality for you

so if you don't understand what

subconscious is then I so strongly

suggest that you go out and listen to or

even you know we books on that if you

don't like reading like me listen to

audiobooks I love listening yeah

motivation you see and you can learn a

lot from it so that's what you really

have to do you have to sort of think

about what you're thinking about think

about what you're thinking about all the

time and then stop when you start it

when you start having it sort of a

negative thoughts stop that and then

think of a positive what could be the

positive thing what is it that you want

in life to change the picture that your

parents have built or society is built

for you changing that jigsaw your

conscious mind doesn't want to change a

jigsaw because you imagine you've made a

great massive jigsaw puzzle here and

you're trying to take the middle of that

jigsaw puzzle add and change it and how

hard would it be to change that jigsaw

puzzle so that's why your conscious mind

is constantly fighting with you to stop

you doing that any fight with you by

sending yeah but what if this happens

this is gonna happen this is gonna

happen and reality is just all you're

doing it fighting with you know else

isn't it yeah yeah so that's how you

sort of change you know reality that's

brilliant that's that's powerful

that's something actually that's for

anyone that is this and there's a book

called the chip paradox and he actually

explains it so it's quadratures paradox

of what he says is you have the chimp

which is your like your subconscious

through then you have a computer which

is kind of the logical side of you but

what he says is the chimp is more

powerful yeah and it's unless we control

this chimp whether it's through changing

our thought processes and the things

that we were taught to believe

absolutely absolutely then the chains

going to take over runs on it and that's

exactly what happens we do 95 90 95

percent of our society

and yeah yeah you like absolutely your

chip will always try to control what it

wants you to do but deep down if you

start to understand it anything is

possible but even having said that it's

not just his thoughts it's it's a

gratitude you have to put into thing

you know I mean I once all grateful for

I mean I can explain sort of you know

what my routine isn't when I get a bunch

of virtually the next thing so yeah yeah

the routine yeah so for myself what I do

when I get up in the morning my general

routine I mean on the early riser so

more put three o'clock in the morning

and one of the things I've learned and

I'll never ever do is put the snooze

button on now that I ever put snooze

button or people do that but that's not

a really a positive thing to do you know

you as soon as oh yeah my alarm goes off

I'm out of bed my feet hit the floor and

the first thing I do is I put my head

together and then I go thank you so much

for another day ahead of me and he's

feeling that gratitude of another day

whether that day is gonna be the same as

yesterday or not matters not it's

another day I listen to a lot of

affirmations in the morning as well so

when you get up in the morning what I

learned is that your subconscious mind

your conscious mind hasn't quite kicked

in so you're still in your subconscious

and state so when you start to feed your

subconscious state with positive

affirmations your day will flow

perfectly so first thing I'll do is of

government phone I'll put my headphones

on I'll get dressed and I start to play

affirmations positive affirmations or

even relaxing music just to calm I'm

like that and so while I'm going

testicle have a yeah you know I mean

I'll have a shower in the night in case

you think I think I've had a shower in

the night and so while I'm brushing my

teeth I'll still got this headset on so

I'll put 20 minutes or so I've got this

headset on listening to affirmations and

while I'm having breakfast on listen to

affirmations and I Drive to work

listening to an audiobook and um how

your mind works there's some great books

out there no doubt you've heard of many

of them I love listening to if you don't

mind the answer yeah actually you know

someone a box I mean I love listening to

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hayden

I'm sure millions of poverty read a book

and the other book I think is fantastic

and people should really haven't

is the science of getting rich by what

is what'll again it's it's it's he

explained it's a science of game rich

and it's a great book to if you I mean

you can buy it but if you don't want to

buy it you can get on YouTube and in

listen to it so for forty minutes from

all the way to work on listening to D so

I'm always trying to feed my mind with

positive affirmations positive vibes all

the way to work and obviously once

you've done your work come back home on

my way back home I'm genuinely back on

for about seven in the morning so I'm

one ear out at the house for a few hours

and when I'm back home I take the dog

for a walk

another relaxing way to do that and then

I get when I'm when I'm home obviously a

boo gone to work by then and then I do

my meditation and we solved for the next

hour and so I sit there and I focus what

I want out of life and how I want my

life to be and so I do a meditation then

listen to some great meditation music

again you can get on YouTube if you

don't I use one called calm on iTunes it

is one that you have to pay for what

yeah it's absolutely fantastic I saw

many on there it's great but as I said

there's lots of free ones you know you

just have to find one that resonates

with you so once of a sort of listened

and once I've done my own meditation I

generally fall asleep for an hour song

two hours and so it's in a sort of fall

asleep for about a couple of hours and

then back up to ten o'clock I've started

to do exercises now when I hadn't before

even though when I was younger I spent a

lot of time exercising but when I got

here I sort of lost confidence in

xdesign so i starting to sort of carry

back into exercising nothing bank am but

i have so for ten o'clock consider do 20

minutes of sort of general exercise and

and and ice get on go about Monday I'll

start work about two o'clock again to

have two and once again I'll start I

only listen or try to listen to

audiobooks you know any kind of audio

Bob Proctor is another fantastic I mean

he's amazing you know I know he's on the

secret but he's so he's been doing this

for 50 years and he's somebody knows

what they're talking about

he is a man that knows what he's talking

about and so I listen to a lot and a lot

of his and audio books I listen to a lot

of time Roberts and again and does a

great motivator so I'm always listening

to these books and that awesome

whilst I'm at work I generally come home

around 1:00 to finished up getting home

for seven have a meal I try to relax by

watching not so much TV programs but

more very old-fashioned God programs if

you like and and the reason of watch

them is because it's it's it explains to

you that what we have now has always

been there but we just we just didn't

realize it so it's in resonates back to

you how you can move forward with what

we have well I've always had and the

generally don't got a bed and again once

again I've always got to sleep at night

and before I go to sleep I just be

thankful for my whole day you know I

think about all the the thing I've done

today even though my day routine is

generally the same and I might have met

somebody new there so I always sort of

gratitude to everything I have even my

meals or sit down and I'm you know you

when I say gratitude because he's

gratitude is part of development so if

you're not grateful for something then

how can you be grateful for what you

want to something so you really have to

be grateful for and I know there's lots

of people there's a wall I can't be

grateful until I get this box if that's

the way you're thinking as we spoke

earlier on you're only gonna get more of

what you're putting out so if you're

thinking I'm not grateful for something

your only your your subconscious mind

only sees that you're not grateful for

something and you know you're feeling

sad about something so he thinks ah okay

oh yeah it's not about this I'll give

you more of that so that's how your

content works and fall asleep again

listening to you

music until the next day I don't know

falling asleep so in the middle of the

night when this thing he's office still

got my head said oh we should take off

pretty so and then you know so that's my

daily routine every day yes it's almost

like the curse of cancer that came into

your life has always made your life

better totally think shame because it

that's it for me it took for me to get

ill to get where I am I mean you know I

had a business which and was almost gone

almost bankrupt me because I really

struggled but had it not been for what

I'd learned over the years I think that

I would have really got into it

depression but because of what I learned

over the years when I did have my

business and that didn't work as well as

I expected it to and it's just one of

them things and yes I worried a lot

about it and opera and Laura's worrying

in the family put up trying to keep it

away from them as well because I didn't

want them to feel under pressure to help

and there was absolutely fantastic you

know hats off to my family then they

stepped in and they sort of we worked

together and you know and it's another

thing that I think I should point out is

that when you have when you when you're

worried about something and even worried

about not telling your parents or

telling your family it's a wrong thing

to do because if your family is always

there to understand and support you and

just it's surprising how much taken just

just by taking or talking to somebody

how much of a burden you can take off

your shoulders and that's what I did you

see but just boy even though they didn't

sort of okay here we'll do this with

this but just talking to them took away

so much of my worries and but as I said

if it wasn't for what I've learned over

the previous year is about being

positive I wouldn't have come out of

that business feeling better for myself

and you know going on six or seven years

now more than that now here 10 years or

so moving forward 10 years you know I've

created another great business you know

I

I'm really happy within them and

progress it's always because you have to

prove you have to think of yourself and

your family and move forward with them

absolutely so a couple of good points

day is born obviously it's easier said

than done but we shouldn't have to wait

for a cancer or death or something you

know like these are simple things that

every single one of us on a daily basis

and so I ask this question can start to

do it's not gonna take us long to just

sit there for best part of two three

minutes and just think of all the things

we're grateful for every single morning

and it slowly become easier then

obviously throughout the day we'll

notice more and more things yeah and

then listening to positive stuff so

hopefully people listening to this can

just take on this now yeah rather than

have to wait for something bad in part

and then just live in this on what it's

almost like a bliss because you just

appreciate every single moment

absolutely right sometimes we will go

through life and six months torment

surpassed and you've never really lived

in the moment because you've won bin

anxious about the past and to you I saw

you anxious about the future until

you've been depressed about the past so

it's a dangerous place to be absolutely

it's almost like living in today you

also said talking to people so this is

something that I actually mentioned on a

previous podcast so I struggled with

anxiety struggled a lot with overwhelm

and similar to yourself I'm trying it

you look after my family I'm trying to

comfort my wife and my siblings and I

don't want to put the burden on them my

mom suffered in depression so she's

loved a best friend by the same time I

don't want to have any stress there as

well but then sometimes if it's too much

and I do speak to her yeah she doesn't

solve the problem but I felt so much

better which she feels better that I

could buy dinner yeah same with my

friends or my wife whoever I speak to it

talking is so powerful it's a massive

massive thing but as humans what I mean

connection speaking is it's part of us

and because the song takes a turn that

follows 24 so absolutely we will lose a

connection

absolutely I think you know that's again

like you said you know is you when you

talk into somebody somebody when you

hold it in yourself you're creating

nothing but bad feelings for yourself

but when you're let that energy out

you've it's almost as if you've left let

out and a massive ball of negative

energy you know that's how you got

acidity is a and you know and it's hard

sometimes understand you know certain 16

certain things in such a situation you

sometimes find it hard to

talk to somebody but the best way

forward and I've always found is that

you know if you can't talk to your

family then talk to somebody who's

confused you're close with you know just

take that off your chest and it makes

you feel so much better and your mind

will always fight you against it because

they want you to hold and I know it

sounds bad do you thinking to yourself

well why wouldn't my mind want to do

that for me and it's always one see it

always sort of and give you a picture of

oh yeah but if you if you told decent

I'm gonna do this ad singly and you know

you but you're creating something hasn't

even happened creating scenario you know

we're going back again you know creating

a picture of what you want if you want

if you want to if you finally difficult

to talk to somebody then imagine it in

your head and I know those who have read

and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

of one of the things he used to do was

he used to have a board meeting and with

some of the richest people in the world

in his head not physically with in your

head and I mean he could if you can

imagine something like that so and it's

easy to imagine thing you know you could

you can imagine something like like just

like that if I said to you now think of

a pink elephant instantly you'll be

thinking of a pink elephant if you're

saying stick your face in the kitchen

you'll be thinking of that so you can

create emotion to that yeah absolutely

absolutely without emotion there's lots

of elements that you have to put

together for the law of attraction to

work emotion is one of them gratitude is

another one the positive thinking is

another one and individually you know

image in your head and what you want

your life to be is another one when you

start to combine these things together

that's when your life starts to change

of people using this Lord of Attraction

has changed in life totally change your

life around within 12 months just by I

mean it takes 30 days to create the

thing is with life itself which we've

created habits and hobbies can be

changed it takes time to change habits

but habits can be changed

I love that and the final point I just

want to add to that is you mentioned a

business that you've just started that

you're very happy with we have another

business because we've got the products

on there it's probably packed in one of

these boxes now because we're moving

house not okay

joining just share that briefly just

with the ordinance a lot when I first

heard about it I was like that's quite

an innovative is quite interesting okay

straight away can you just starting from

scratch sure yeah yeah and others here

do I do my full time I guess it's a job

but it's not job because he's still

self-employed and do my parcel business

but always wanted to be sort of an

online trader so what I started to do

was I looked at ways I can make money

online Amazon was a biggest platform so

I was learned how to sort of started

looking more into how Amazon works and

so I learned how to through their

learning program and he can learn Lee to

Amazon sort of learned how to sell

products on Amazon and that's what I'm

moving forward with and I've got a

product on there now which and which is

aromatherapy oils but he's one of them

things that sort of well it's a bit of a

risk to take but again if you want

something to happen you have to have a

positive outcome of it and so I started

to understand and learn a lot about

Amazon and how they were what what to do

and learnt the course

they've had to promote the product how

where to find a product had to get

product once I understood all that I'm

still learning from it's not something

that yeah fully understood I'm still

learning from them I started as I said I

imported my first product and it's been

great you know really has my wife uses

it I think that's actually okay yeah it

is a great product done yeah just on

that as well so soft and you hear people

thinking they can't do nothing we have

all these limiting beliefs and they see

what we can do in life and yeah you just

thought okay I wanted to start a

business and you probably wouldn't you

probably just figured it out along the

way yeah you are not selling a product

unless that's a lesson to anyone like if

this is something you want with the

right mindset and then obviously the

action nothing impossible without action

you know you it's no good having the

oldest mindset yeah positive thinking

when you take no action you you know you

have to take action if it's something

there's some

looking to do you know sell online it

doesn't have to be Amazon there's lots

of other platforms on there

I chose Amazon because I was on is deep

Biggie's platform to sell and I chose

Amazon because I found it you can I can

I don't have to store the product at all

I'll send it to their warehouse

everything they deal with a moment yeah

absolutely and their fulfillment center

that deal with the customers they deal

with the returns of course anything that

is returned luckily for me I finally had

one product returned in all the ones

that have sold and then they they

contact you so you have nothing you know

that this is the biggest fear with

people they think well how can I start

oh I'm Christie what about customer

series what about this but this with

Amazon they deal with all that with you

yeah of course they target fee which is

understandable but you have to find a

product then you can now incorporate all

that and you can make and still make a

profit out of it you know you you know

you could there's lots of people on

Amazon that making great massive massive

monthly incomes and it's it is possible

and you just have to trust in yourself

to do it and that's the hardest thing

trusting yourself

if it's something that you know it's for

the listeners if something that you're

passionate about then use that product

use that as a product absolutely I want

you to put that in there because I've

seen you use the product as well yeah so

it's not like a shameless plug or any

yeah yeah it's inspiring because if I

ask someone say for instance my dad or

my own course or something do that the

first thing that says all are configured

I don't know about the internet and we

have a lot of people in the audience we

just automatically have exclusive

straightaway absolute is always it's

just refreshing to hear somebody just

say you know what what it actually shows

that everything you're putting in

practice in your daily routines like the

affirmation is opposed to thinking yeah

you put it into practice any practice or

you foods I think that's the thing with

all the community because I mean I'm 53

and if I can make changes at 53 people

at that age if not younger

I mean exactly majority to prepare

people you know once they get past forty

forty five to think that's it I think

the life is over

you can't progress you can't learn you

the game started yeah it's just starting

and I just gain started don't let

things top of you because when you're

young you have a whole you could you got

your whole life in front of you when

you're 40 your passport you're getting

close to 50 you think that you've only

got a few years but just in a few years

if you with the right mindset it just

within a few years you can change the

whole life around if that's what you

want being all free absolutely people

are living longer now resolve of course

yeah yeah definitely Brit okay thank you

for that so we spoke about diversity

quite a bit and we spoke obviously the

business stuff we spoke about the

personal health problems as well if you

could just choose one of your biggest

lessons that you've learned from that

experience so I'm going that you had the

mindset of something but if you can just

say to somebody maybe who's experienced

in it now or going through term or

whether it's cancer or any other illness

if you can just give them one lesson

that you've taken from that situation I

would say that you know just as hard

when giving that situation but just try

to see things as I say just try and look

at the light at the end of the tunnel

you know just try to focus on you

getting better you moving forward you

wanting the thing that you want instead

of focusing on something and I

understand that it's hard because I've

been there and but just try to listen

and the best way did it one of the other

things I absolutely love doing is I love

listening to music that I love because

he just makes you feel so much better

so if you are going through a tough time

listen to your favorite song don't lose

sight of you joy yeah something that you

enjoy listening to listen to a rock so

you know not so much a rock song in the

sense of rock song I mean something that

has a fantastic you know I always find

that that helps me to feel better so and

yeah you know just just try to stay

positive really you know it's a tough

situation to be more you just have to

learn to stay positive

yeah that's brilliant thank you for that

I'm in this particular moment right this

second what is your biggest fear and

fear is another to say this now because

fear is just a thought it's just thought

that can be told controlled when you

have a fear you can always change your

feeling too and on

so I try to avoid having a fear because

I'm not saying don't not worried about

anything I'm always worried about the

future and have I done enough too but

when I pass how I done enough on this

earth for those were living here now for

when I pass that means my biggest

concern blooded and I fear because I

think when you use the word fear I don't

know a lot of people do but I from what

I've learned one of the things I

understand these learn to understand

these fear it's just a word it's a word

that's used by everybody

so when somebody uses the word fear you

instantly think the worst of something

so no no that's not what you wanted to

hear but I think that they when you use

the word fear you sort of think of the

worst but to me don't think of the way

fear and it's hard not to but don't

think of me think of something think of

it as a unless fear forward if you like

but yeah well my biggest concern is how

about done enough on earth and for those

coming okay that's one of my biggest

interested and has that purpose of yours

that why without motivation to leave the

world given as much as usually has that

only stemmed since again that I don't

want to keep touching on it but they

Hansard incident absolutely yeah yeah

yeah and that's interesting because a

lot of people I find that go through

adversity in life or have been through

hardship they almost become selfless and

they just want it almost in that moment

when they're so great for this stuff

they want to give back more yeah yeah I

think before that we kind of do live a

selfish life yeah absolutely because I I

was kind of selfish I only really

thought about myself I didn't even

though I've respected what my pen said I

would kind of well my life I could do

what I like or no and even you know

going back down I remember my father

sitting me down once and he went and he

said you know you're going down the

wrong path because I started getting

involved with the wrong people he said

you're gonna shame us and he was like

that backing when I was growing up he

said you're gonna put shame on us and

you're gonna end up in prison because he

thought I was gonna end up in prison and

but I you know I was not but I wanted to

do what I want to do

care about that I just want to do what I

want to do for what I dye my hair with a

dime appears like yeah you can't stop me

even though respecting him when I didn't

do a pop it was one of the thoughts of

him that was going through her head and

so ya can say for me cancer was the

biggest biggest thing that changed and

maybe that's what I needed

you know things they were say the things

come for a reason maybe that is what I

needed

that's a wake-up call this is why I

actually love like I love dis as part of

my job because I get to meet people at

you and without having to go through the

pain and that you've been through yeah

it inspires me so much like this is

inspiring but I have sometimes will be

talking and I'll be like episode 4

so-and-so said this how dare I feel

sorry for myself

yeah I'm it doesn't get me through the

day and I'll always think I'm blessed

because when I'm gonna have him speak to

somebody I always get to meet a new

friend and a new person that I form a

relationship and then it just changed my

perspective because I'm like I'm so much

more grateful even now just for like

health see you perfectly because he's

just pointed it out you know you was

having there we're gonna use the word

negative again we're having daily

thought about something and yet you

instantly realized you was and then

change it into something positive by

saying about somebody such as 50 cents

or how dare I

and it's absolutely like you know this

there's so many people in this world

that are worse off than you yeah you

know you other than those who are

homeless and you know this is one of the

things I want to do and as I get better

and better and you know be able to do it

is to help the homeless because unless

you're homeless and God not you if a

long as you go roof of your hand yes

it's always tough if you haven't got a

job and I know it's a big thing and a

big concern but yeah if you got a roof

over you should be grateful

always be playing with without gratitude

absolutely can't move forward and I

think I think that's that's a brilliant

point I think it's something though we

do have to do every day because again

adversity everything he goes for

everyone's life and I've had moments

when but death happens all of a sudden

for that month but you're you you're

grateful for everything and you know

life's too short please share everything

but then you get very quickly back into

their old habits happy so that's why I

always read

it should be like a day absolutely you

touch on the homeless thing so I'm I'm

very fortunate my parents are very like

loving people so we foster children and

it's laughs okay well you're my sister

then we adopted and my mom tried to

adopt every single kid that coming to

the house and laughs there's no room in

the house so I've got like three white

siblings and we've got Asian sister as

well was adopted and seeing them and

seeing like their issues in terms of

like disabilities there were

malnutrition when they first came there

Testament disorders it made me so

grateful like it changed my whole life

so I gave good-paying jobs to become

like a social worker to effectively

change the world and it changed but then

what happened was when I got married and

I moved into my house here we're sitting

today yeah

don't my siblings I think about them

every single day but I don't live with

them every day to end that feeling of

gratitude every single day okay

whereas before I never had to remind

myself please job like this a nice thing

poor Kyle he might never be able to

drive a car he'll never be able to do

this yeah and he used to make me feel

grateful yeah so it is something I think

like anything like if you don't look

after your health every single day it's

gonna deteriorate absolutely I think we

should always try and I think that's the

biggest issue and you get to a certain

stage and when you're happy with your

life you tend to start to forget about

that is you know just another quick

point is you know it's not a religious

thing or I don't want to win anybody

here but when when something bad you

never think about God you go about your

day to day business but when something

bad happens you straight away you're

going and pray to God you know God is

there every single day yet you forget

and I know most people don't but the

majority do you know they forget that

he's there every day and I even though

I'm not a I'm a spiritual person and you

know it doesn't matter what you are deep

down with all the same so when you have

to pray to somebody then pray to them

every day if you want to if you feel

that God is your way forward and then

pray to God every day be thankful to him

that you got me walk every day not just

a day that you're feeling down or you

find a bad day or you've lost your cat

you lost your dog or anything else you

know every single day should be a day

where you grateful with gratitude 100%

you alcohol I think that's beautiful

message I think it's something that I'm

probably cure you have I remember as a

kid man if I thought was gonna get in

trouble bug my parents

like God please get me through this day

never do it again I'm sure we've all

kind of done yeah I thought okay

brilliant so we're actually at the fun

part of the show is what I called it so

it's again quickfire round of 60 to 90

seconds depending when I apply you out

basically I just random questions okay

are we all ready yeah okay we're gonna

go in three two one

if you could abolish one thing in the

world what would it be oh yeah your

favorite beer butter oh yeah your

biggest role model Oh baby what would

you like to be remembered for the good I

did your biggest goal this year to be

successful and help us your worst

mistake not doing Eternia if you could

relive one day again what day would it

be the very first day I was born

the ability to fly or be invisible

invisible the number one thing that

annoys you but habits and when your fame

neither your proudest moment my children

your favorite food

got a visual icing chicken would you

rather speak or languages or speak to

animals what's your favorite song at the

club by the Drifters and if you had an

extra hour a day how would you spend it

meditating Netflix or YouTube Netflix

and the final question is the number one

piece of advice you would give to your

children just be yourself okay brilliant

so we're approaching towards the end of

the show now and just two more questions

that I always like to ask my guest the

next one's about reflection I saw this

is in hindsight obviously we learn ways

where we can get to places quicker with

less heartache or by saving money for

example so if you could go back knowing

everything that you know now and all

your words of wisdom and everything that

we've spoken about in the show to a

younger time when maybe you were

confused or going through a time where

you had no clarity in your life yeah and

you can just whisper something in the

younger piece yeah yeah did you say gone

back if I had and I think that this may

you know I was thinking these yes now

even though I would tell myself that the

future is what you create the Tippie so

if you want your future to be better

paint that picture in your head and

that's what I would whisper to myself

paint the picture of how you want your

life to be and it will create it

that's Brittany I think the more waters

the develop my dream and stuff as well

that's more what I try and do is I like

vision board and stuff and I think I

think maybe as children as well we do

that but there's somewhere between

childhood when you've got that innocence

to growing up yeah we tend to lose it I

think the vision boards are fantastic

and I think that a great thing to have

because it gives you a idea of how you

want your life to be but the whole time

to that to that is when somebody makes a

vision board they forget that they can

change that vision board and once you've

looked at it a few times it's just there

sitting on the wall of what I tend to do

is I've read my goals every morning I'll

have a book written in there what I want

my average day to be like and I read the

book everything is pretty detailed of

how I would like to be and I sit down

and read it and if there's something a

lot I don't like in it I always draw it

out and change it and I think with

things like vision boards and even

though I did a great thing like I said

but vision boards is a massive picture

of you know I feel Bree wants to be

multi millionaire and they know we're

near there it's it's an image where you

think well I'm not gonna get there but

if you take small steps because vision

boards can be expanded it can be changed

but I think people when who make vision

boards are I'm not sure about yourself

of people who make vision boards tend

not to change it so then look at it once

or twice

literally for a month or so after that -

forget the vision boards he's there but

you know going forward it's not it's not

a bad thing I'm not saying would you

recommend them having a two year goal

it's about building confidence so if

you're gonna like your goal down for

yourself or goals down for yourself and

you've written a goal to say let's just

say for argument's say you're gonna have

a million pound in a year and people do

like gods like now because the thing -

what if I could create anything or

agreat that create that I'm not saying

it can't be created but if y'all haven't

but if you're not if you're not in line

with your positive thinking creating

that video path is going to be difficult

but if you say to yourself I want to

create a slightly similar goal so say a

few sectors up I want to

10,000 pounds a month 10,000 pound a

month is far achievable easily

achievable because your work hard racket

absolutely once you achieve your 10,000

pounds a month you've put it and have a

booster then draw your goal pika make it

twenty thousand their next month and you

know no no there's lots of people out

there don't think well I want to be a

millionaire and I want to beat in a year

and but you didn't learn to speak and

you didn't know how long did it take you

to learn to walk how long did it take

you to do things now you know just

generally to do things it takes 12 years

for you to go through school and learn

all the things in school you're not

going to become successful in a year

well I'm not so don't get me wrong sorry

I apologize for that it's not you're not

going to be your mindset isn't bright

guitar pitch there won't be a nominees

that will obviously do it for the vast

majority of us we have to develop one a

sphere is changing one our mindset one I

help everything needs a line is have

yeah and we need to increase the

confidence and our skill set in all of

those yeah and one of the things that I

I suppose I've suffered with I saw I

don't do vision boards myself is that no

people do is when I used to have these

big goals

somewhere along their journey if you're

trying to be like an entrepreneur trying

to find your way life yeah when you

realize how far you are from you goes

you become very dissatisfied to me and