6:33 Action is character
8:29 Impersonate the person you want to be
11:51 Confidence is domain specific
14:15 Advice for dating situations
18:25 Shame as a tool
22:48 The power of being inauthentic
25:28 Standing up to bullies
31:00 Advice for shy guys
33:05 The process of becoming more confident and some of the setback you will face
You can find Amy Alkon's "science-help column" here: https://www.creators.com/features/advice-goddess-amy-alkon
Follow Amy on Twitter at @amyalkon.
And you'll find her book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence, here:
https://www.amazon.com/Unf-ckology-Field-Living-Confidence/dp/125008086X
I highly recommend it!
Further References
Amy Alkon, Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say Fuck (2014); I See Rude People: One Woman’s Battle to Beat Some Manners Into Impolite Society (2009); Free Advice, with Caroline Johnson and Marlowe Minnick (1996)
Robert Trivers: http://www.roberttrivers.com/Robert_Trivers/Welcome.html
James Pennebaker and John Frank Evans, Expressive Writing: Words that Heal (2014)
Sonja Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want (2017)
David Buss, “The Evolution of Happiness” (2000): https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2000-13324-002
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