583 Poly Weekly live from Portland!

We interview a munch organizer and field audience questions at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon

0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarletteen.com We’re at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon! 2:00 Interview with Close In munch organizer Hannah

Lessons learned include:

poly and kinky people are everywhere it’s important to destigmatize a stigmatized group “Square up; what you want is fine; fuck ‘em all!” 9:00 Poly Weekly live! What advice would you give to solo polys? net Off the Relationship Escalator 12:45 How to come out to folks who aren’t familiar with poly? Anticipate questions, be prepared, be calm, don’t take it personally, give them a year to freak out Folks will match your tone, so adopt one of calm, easy compassion 16:00 How has poly changed in the last 14 years? 17:45 And now there are terms for everything! my Poly Living keynote How Polyamory Became More Mainstream Than Peanut Butter all the poly recommended reading 19:05 How do I bring up the birth control discussion? Be brave and bring it up. Or leave a birth control pamphlet in the toilet for leisure reading! J Use regular relationship check ins as a space to bring up any issues 22:15 What is your take on hierarchies? If it works for everyone involved and it’s transparent, fine. But it doesn’t work for everyone (or me). The challenge with hierarchies is that it sets up a permission model. Be aware if you are talking about power structure or entanglement levels? If the latter, “nesting partner” might be more useful than “primary.” 26:15 My mom thinks my polyamory is a phase. Do you know folks who have lived out their lives as poly? Allena Gabosch, Oberon Zell-Ravenhart, and many others. Just as with child-rearing, having an extended network to help you in your old age is valuable. 31:15 Contact us

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