But I was spanked growing up and I turned out just fine!
Why what coercive control and corporal punishment aren't good longer term ways to shape behavior.
Most obvious examples are pushing, hitting, whipping, shaking, grabbing, spanking.
Verbal: insulting, excessive yelling, name calling, put downs, rhetorical questions.
This episode is in noway meant to make you feel bad if these are the behavioral tactics you are currently using.
We want you to know, if you are listening, then that means you are ready to make a change!
It will stop whatever behavior is happening as you child becomes frightened and startled
Using spanking as a form of punishment makes your child FEAR you, not RESPECT you.
Is this what you want? You want your child to fear you? I certainly don’t.
BUT This is the EXACT reason why its enticing to use and why it is such a popular method of behavior management.
However, as child become more and more exposed to that type of punishment, it becomes less and less effective due to the behavioral phenomena of habituation
So when your light spank on the behind no longer stops the behavior, what's your next move?
Yell louder? Spank harder? More often? Switch to something else, like a spoon or a belt?
Because the only option is to increase the intensity in that moment.
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