RE 265: The Strategy of the Comfort Zone

Janine took her last drink on October 6, 2019.  This is her story.

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On today’s episode, Paul talks about your comfort zone, why it’s important to have one, why it is so important to get outside of it, and how it is possible to get too far out of it.  The true authentic you doesn’t exist in your comfort zone.  Stepping outside your comfort zone even once, makes it easier that you’ll do it again. 

As for ditching the booze, here are some strategies in regards to the comfort zone.  Instead of quitting forever, aim for one day, or 50% of the days in a month.  Burning the ships?  Go at your own pace.  90 meetings in 90 days too much, aim for 1 a week, then 2 a week.   

 

[20:00] Paul introduces Janine. 

 

Janine is 32 years old and is from Pensacola, FL.  She is married and has a 9-month-old daughter.  Janine is a former kindergarten teacher.  For fun she likes to go to the beach with her family, walking her dog and spending time with her daughter. 

 

[24:00] Give us a background on your drinking.

 

Janine took her first drink when she was 17-years-old and she immediately loved the feeling it gave her.  Through college she feels she drank like every other college student.  Janine says her drinking didn’t take off until she started her teaching career, and that gradually over the years she was drinking more and more. 

 

When she met her husband, and knew that it was something serious, she says she knew that she was going to have to do something about her drinking.  

 

 

[26:45] Talk to us about the methods you used to try and control your drinking. 

 

Janine said she tried them all.  Switched from liquor to wine/beer.  Still getting backout drunk after switching to wine she tried drinking a glass of water after every glass of wine.  Not drinking during the week, but even when that worked, she was still getting blackout drunk all weekend.      

 

[28:15] Was there a time when fear came in and you didn’t think you could stop? 

 

Janine said yes, that that is exactly what happened.          

 

[30:30] Can you tell us a little about postpartum depression?

 

Janine said for her she felt like she lost some of her identity, her whole life now revolved around another human being.  She had days when she would look in the mirror and not even recognize herself.  Her emotions were all over the place.  Janine ended up going to her doctor and getting on antidepressants, but was still drinking.             

 

[35:00] Tell us what happened next. 

 

After trying to modify, by having no alcohol in the house, Janine said she went and bought 2 bottles of wine and drank them one night after the baby was in bed.  She got blackout drunk, sent strange texts, and spent the next day crying and filled with anxiety.  She couldn’t deny it anymore, she knew she had a problem and couldn’t control it. 

 

Later that day her dad, a recovering alcoholic himself, called Janine.  She says his first words were, “I just felt I needed to call and hear your voice.”.  Janine said she just lost it and opened up to him for the first time.      

 

[40:30] What was that first AA meeting like and what happened after that?

 

Janine said she was terrified to go that first meeting, but that after the meeting people came up and were very friendly.  She said she was also comforted by the fact that there were other teachers there.  She was still feeling like her life was over that first week.    

 

[44:14] Was there a challenging moment when you wanted to drink, and how did you get past it?

 

Janine said she had several in the beginning.  She said when those times came up, she would call a friend, or call her sponsor. 

 

[45:25] How has the relationship with your husband changed? 

 

Janine says her husband fully supports her and has also quit drinking.  She feels like their relationship has gotten a lot deeper.       

 

[54:30] Rapid Fire Round

 

What’s a lightbulb moment you’ve had on this journey?

 

I would say when I made that last attempt to control my drinking by not having alcohol in my house

 

What is a memorable moment that a life without alcohol has provided you?

 

Spending my daughter’s 1st Christmas completely sober. 

 

What’s your favorite alcohol-free drink?

 

I am a big fan of water. 

 

What are some of your favorite resources?

 

I enjoy this podcast; I don’t get to attend AA meetings as much as I would like but I also enjoy reading. 

 

What is on your bucket list in a life without alcohol?

 

I am actually thinking about taking up blogging. 

 

What parting piece of guidance can you give to listeners?

 

If you know in your heart that you can’t control your drinking anymore, don’t listen to the lies that your mind is telling you. 

 

 

You might need to ditch the booze if...

           

You get blackout drunk while watching Dateline. 

 

 

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

 

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