Lead with the Enneagram with Host Tracy O’Malley
Business:Entrepreneurship
34: Growing love and understanding through the Enneagram lens
2020-04-14
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Using the Enneagram to build deeper connections and healthier relationships
This week’s episode is all about how you can have healthier relationships based on your enneagram type—and how understanding is just another form of love. With the spread of coronavirus keeping us indoors, staying home is putting a lot of pressure on our closest relationships--with no relief from outside distractions. Being able to understand yourself and those around you is key to growing a deeper connection and love in your household.
Listen to this week’s episode to hear how your Enneagram type handles relationships, how to support the different enneagram types as a partner, and how to understand yourself in order to truly love and understand others.
Viewing differences with compassion
All relationships are being tested in close quarters and it can be easy to get frustrated by those you love. I discuss how the Enneagram gives us a common language and is a tool that reminds you that everyone sees and interacts with the world completely different. The enneagram allows you to grow by opening your mind to see, hear, and understand everyone’s differences with compassion.
Enneagram types in relationships
I go through each type of enneagram personality type, what qualities each type brings to relationships, as well as what kinds of things you can expect as a partner and how to support each type.
If love is involved, conflict is usually right around the corner, so it is important you know how to effectively get through it together. The enneagram can help you do this and can develop deeper connections that allow you to thrive in your relationship, despite your differences. Understanding is loves other name, and in times of crisis, the deeper we can understand each other, the deeper we can love.
Quotes:
“Understanding is love’s other name, and if you don’t understand, you can’t really love.” 1:36
“As a healthy 1, you can lean into the healthy parts of the 7.” 6:35
“The goal for 1’s is to practice letting things go, really kinda check in with yourself at a deeper level; seek peace instead of perfection in your relationships.” 7:38
“The challenge for 2’s in relationship is to remain grounded in your own identity even while serving others.” 11:25
“The best way to love a 2 is to help them love themselves.” 13:32
“The thing with 3’s in relationships is if they’re not careful, they can lose touch with their true selves and begin to believe their constructed images.” 15:55
“It’s essential to discourage shape shifting in your relationship with 3’s.” 19:51
“Where you get into trouble, 4’s, is when you trust your own emotions as truth.” 23:31
“If you are true to who you are, there is nothing more meaningful or attractive to 4’s than authenticity.” 27:23
“5’s, you like to isolate, so balancing your isolation with belonging is going to be really important.” 28:01
“In relationships, 5’s need space—it doesn’t mean they’re rejecting you or that they dont love you or that they’re annoyed by you. They just need space to process.” 30:07
“6’s face this unique challenge in that they can struggle to forgive and forget. To them, forgiveness is a sign of weakness.” 33:39
“6’s, you don’t have to conquer your fear at all—that’s natural and healthy. Just tell it to get in the back seat.” 34:34
“My 7’s, the Enthusiasts, embrace your feelings as your next adventure instead of trying to find adventure outside of yourself all of the time.” 38:17
“Where you 7’s have to be careful is your continuous pursuit of pleasure can make your loved ones feel like their presence isn’t good enough.” 40:45
“As an 8, losing control for the sake of love is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.” 44:59
“The 8’s are probably the most guarded on the Enneagram in relationships and avoid vulnerability that will expose their weakness.” 48:15
“While 9’s know how to make everyone feel seen, it’s not uncommon for them to lose themselves in relationships.” 54:42
“Includes 9’s in your decision making processes; they will naturally gravitate away from voicing their opinions so encourage them.” 57:48
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This week’s episode is all about how you can have healthier relationships based on your enneagram type—and how understanding is just another form of love. With the spread of coronavirus keeping us indoors, staying home is putting a lot of pressure on our closest relationships--with no relief from outside distractions. Being able to understand yourself and those around you is key to growing a deeper connection and love in your household.
Listen to this week’s episode to hear how your Enneagram type handles relationships, how to support the different enneagram types as a partner, and how to understand yourself in order to truly love and understand others.
Viewing differences with compassion
All relationships are being tested in close quarters and it can be easy to get frustrated by those you love. I discuss how the Enneagram gives us a common language and is a tool that reminds you that everyone sees and interacts with the world completely different. The enneagram allows you to grow by opening your mind to see, hear, and understand everyone’s differences with compassion.
Enneagram types in relationships
I go through each type of enneagram personality type, what qualities each type brings to relationships, as well as what kinds of things you can expect as a partner and how to support each type.
If love is involved, conflict is usually right around the corner, so it is important you know how to effectively get through it together. The enneagram can help you do this and can develop deeper connections that allow you to thrive in your relationship, despite your differences. Understanding is loves other name, and in times of crisis, the deeper we can understand each other, the deeper we can love.
Quotes:
“Understanding is love’s other name, and if you don’t understand, you can’t really love.” 1:36
“As a healthy 1, you can lean into the healthy parts of the 7.” 6:35
“The goal for 1’s is to practice letting things go, really kinda check in with yourself at a deeper level; seek peace instead of perfection in your relationships.” 7:38
“The challenge for 2’s in relationship is to remain grounded in your own identity even while serving others.” 11:25
“The best way to love a 2 is to help them love themselves.” 13:32
“The thing with 3’s in relationships is if they’re not careful, they can lose touch with their true selves and begin to believe their constructed images.” 15:55
“It’s essential to discourage shape shifting in your relationship with 3’s.” 19:51
“Where you get into trouble, 4’s, is when you trust your own emotions as truth.” 23:31
“If you are true to who you are, there is nothing more meaningful or attractive to 4’s than authenticity.” 27:23
“5’s, you like to isolate, so balancing your isolation with belonging is going to be really important.” 28:01
“In relationships, 5’s need space—it doesn’t mean they’re rejecting you or that they dont love you or that they’re annoyed by you. They just need space to process.” 30:07
“6’s face this unique challenge in that they can struggle to forgive and forget. To them, forgiveness is a sign of weakness.” 33:39
“6’s, you don’t have to conquer your fear at all—that’s natural and healthy. Just tell it to get in the back seat.” 34:34
“My 7’s, the Enthusiasts, embrace your feelings as your next adventure instead of trying to find adventure outside of yourself all of the time.” 38:17
“Where you 7’s have to be careful is your continuous pursuit of pleasure can make your loved ones feel like their presence isn’t good enough.” 40:45
“As an 8, losing control for the sake of love is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.” 44:59
“The 8’s are probably the most guarded on the Enneagram in relationships and avoid vulnerability that will expose their weakness.” 48:15
“While 9’s know how to make everyone feel seen, it’s not uncommon for them to lose themselves in relationships.” 54:42
“Includes 9’s in your decision making processes; they will naturally gravitate away from voicing their opinions so encourage them.” 57:48
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