Magic 8-Ball: 7 questions to ask yourself before saying yes to anything

In case you hadn’t heard, every-other-Tuesday we’re publishing “Magic 8-Ball” episodes! AKA, we shake up the nearly-200 episodes we’ve released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today.

Today’s episode is a blog from March 2018 that’s especially for all of you to default to saying “yes” to everything, and then feel overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out…

As an introvert who’s also a recovering people pleaser, it still gives me a small thrill of rebelliousness to say no to things. That’s probably because in years past, I used to be a total yes girl.

Before I’d fully accepted my more introverted nature (meaning I need a LOT of downtime and spaciousness, and I quickly get overwhelmed with too many plans), I was always overcommitting myself.

And before I’d gotten my people-pleasing ways (mostly) in check, my fear of disappointing people was intense. So without thinking, I’d automatically say yes to work projects, social invitations, favors, and requests of all kinds. Cue the burnout and resentment.

Now I’m much more selective about what I say yes to.

In this blog I (Kristen) am giving you 7 questions to ask yourself BEFORE you say yes to anything to make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons.

After you’ve listened, leave a comment to let us know if you try out these questions for yourself OR if you have any other questions you want to add to the list!

IF YOU LIKED THIS, YOU SHOULD ALSO LISTEN TO…

How to get out of Analysis Paralysis (October 2019)

When is it worth getting out of your comfort zone? (September 2018)

Side Chat: Honing your intuition (& knowing when it's really fear) (June 2019)

How to know when it’s time to quit (a job, or anything else) (Mary 2019)

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