36: Quarantine, uncertainty, and finding the power in vulnerability with the Enneagram.

Getting through quarantine differently, but together

This week’s Enneatalk Tuesday is a little different from the usual enneagram episodes. In a time where we are all going through a sense of loss, whether it be income, job, freedom, and in worst case scenarios, even life, I talk about what we can do by focusing on the things we can control. I share my own background, journey, and growth, and how I have learned to take inventory of myself, the process of how I use the enneagram to help when under stress, and how to have compassion for myself while doing so.

Listen to this episode to hear a very personal look into how the enneagram helps me grow and deal with pressure, how I seek to add value to the world, how to be self-aware enough to know when to take a step back, and how sometimes, surrendering ourselves is when the most important miracles happen.

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Adding value during quarantine

During quarantine I’ve been watching as, for the first time ever, we are all impacted by the same thing, something that doesn’t discriminate, but is equally affecting our lives around the world. I have been watching as we all deal with this in our different ways and have been trying to figure out how and when I can add value—not just for others, but also for myself.

The power in surrendering

I dig into my past, my old coping methods, the four things that I have completely surrendered myself to during my life, and how the outcomes have brought immense change, growth, gifts, and miracles. I share my process with the enneagram when I come under stress, and discuss how, because we no longer have the distractions that we had a month ago, I am left with a lot of emotions.

High involvement low attachment

What I know is that I am eager to use my gifts, to help those and add value in times of need. However, it is best for me to trust the process, trust the journey of self-learning and growth so that I don’t disassociate my emotions and deflect them in order to help others immediately.

The best way I can show up for others, to do what I am supposed to do, is to first sit with my own feelings and work through it myself, so that when I do add value, my message will be even greater. Moving through these next few weeks, remember that there is power in vulnerability.

Quotes:
“If you spot it, you got it, and if you’re throwing shade at people, I’m gonna really encourage you to take a deep, hard look in the mirror.” 2:06

“The 2’s are frantically running around like ‘who can I help?’ but they can’t physically be with anybody so they feel handcuffed.” 6:58

“The 3’s are like ‘what can I create to make the world a better place?’” 7:05

“The 4’s are feeling all the things and super emotional.” 7:16

“The 5’s are on lockdown and probably the type thriving the most in all of this.” 7:21

“The 7’s they’re either spinning out or tapping into such beautiful creativity.” 7:34

“The 8’s are either surrendering to this with a lot of pain or they’re being rebellious and defiant.” 7:44

“The 9’s are either that ‘Yoda’ wisdom or they’ve just completely shut down.” 7:57

“I was completely surrendered to the fact that nothing about my life before I was about to walk into [rehab] would ever be the same other than the love I have for my kids.” 19:35

“I’m close to 8 years of sobriety today; I live a very strong recovery life every single day and that came with the full surrender.” 19:46

“When I do surrender to the process, it’s never let me down before and mighty miracles happen.” 27:07

“For those of you that are known as the strong ones and the rocks out there, I want you to know it’s okay to feel and to ask for people to hold that space for you.” 30:07

“You have to be willing to look at all of you, you gotta look at the shiny and the sh*tty, all of it.” 33:42

“The next right thing to do is to kinda be present with myself without the disassociation.” 35:40