46: How the Enneagram can help effectively communicate with those you love the most

Using the Enneagram to communicate with those you love

This week’s EnneaTalk Tuesday is a special one because it’s all about communicating with the people you care about the most and how the enneagram can help. I discuss how the enneagram can be used as a tool to deepen your relationship and speak one another’s language, how it can help overcome challenges, and create beautiful understanding of one another.

Listen to this episode to hear how the enneagram can help strengthen your relationships, communicate effectively, understand loved one’s strengths and weaknesses, and how it can help support one another and enable you to speak from a place of love.

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Communicating in quarantine, and beyond

I start this episode sharing how emotional the past few weeks have been and how challenging communication can be—especially during quarantine, when we are all missing the intimacy of being with friends and family. I share the feedback I have gotten over the past couple of weeks from my own loved ones, and how that has caused me to self-assess and rely on my toolbox to understand how I am feeling and making others feel.

Creating compassion and self-awareness

When it comes to communicating with people you care about, it is crucial that your needs are met, while also understanding where they are coming from. The enneagram enables you to truly take responsibility for your own behavior, focus on what you are capable of changing, and helps build self-awareness and compassion for those around you.

Enhance your relationships

I share how the enneagram has changed my life, how it has the ability to change yours, and how, when used correctly, it can help people feel respected, heard, and loved unconditionally. You only have control over your own actions, and how you react to situations, so learning how to use this tool can grow self-compassion, self-awareness, and understanding—and truly enhance any relationship in your life.

Quotes:
“An 8 under stress gets kind of quiet, even more introverted, and very secretive, or at least appear secretive.” 8:16
“With new insights from this toolbox, you can have more options and choices in communicating, becoming more self-aware, and it allows you to see yourself as others experience you.” 14:34
“The good news about the Enneagram is it allows you to have this deep, inner wisdom that becomes available to you in every moment.” 15:52
“The Enneagram is helpful also because you begin to understand your partner, whether it’s a romantic partner, children partners, business partners, or friendship partners.” 17:53
“In a relationship, your partner can remain a mystery and you can remain a mystery to them too, but when both parties understand the Enneagram you can get a glimpse of what it is like to be in their shoes.” 18:17
“The other way the Enneagram is can really help you in your relationships is you can find a common language.” 21:48
“The beautiful thing about really lovingly and in integrity learning the Enneagram, your personal type first and foremost and the types of the people that you care about, will help you really know what to look out for and encourage along the way.” 27:09
“The Enneagram will also allow you to remain curious about what is going on in yourself.” 28:16
“The Enneagram also allows you to continue the process of letting go of fear, anger, and pain that is blocking me and you.” 29:54
“The Enneagram can help enhance any relationship in your life, especially those that mean the most to you.” 30:44
“The greatest gift of the Enneagram is that it helps you do your personal work without judgement.” 31:14