Divorce and Breakup Recovery with Joana Lopez
On today's podcast, we have Joana Lopez talk to us about divorce and breakup recovery. She is a heartbreak coach from Toronto. Lovely to have her!
Joana grew up in Mexico, but moved to Canada when she was very young. It's been home ever since.
What does a divorce and breakup coach mean?
Basically, Joana works with people through the emotional pain caused by separation. When people go through that separation, the emotional pain can be and is overwhelming and need help processing that.
It can really block your mind from focussing on things and so Joana helps entrepreneurs know how to tackle these things to help their business. So, Joana's ideal client is entrepreneurs working through breakups.
The moment people are able to get back on their feet, they are able to heal.
When in the process of breakups and divorces do people come to you for help?
There are 3 levels of the separation process/3 types of client Joana works with:
The client who is still in the relationship and unhappy, and doesn't know how to move forward. It's affecting their business.
It is not the process of separation that's bothering this client - they want the separation. Or, they are undergoing the process of separation because their partner has willed it.
This client has already been dealing with separation for a long period of time and it is affecting their mental health and other aspects of their lives.
With all of that, divorce and breakup recovery can be so intense and long-lasting. Joana helps clients work through it in an efficient way so that they can move on.
How do you advise that person?
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Joana helps clients by recognising psychological reactions in the individuals. She has a lot of material to help her clients, because every single client will be different....
But then again, will they have similar characteristics?
Joana loves this question! Personally, she finds each story different in each tragedy. However, there are 3 main issues or core problems that Joana and her business solves. A lot of the breakup problems go beyond the break up.
This is because we have unconscious patterns and blocks. Therefore, Joana has 3 stages in which she helps the client with heartbreak.
Assess the unconscious blocks and patterns - this is because the problem that clients come with is never the actual problem.
Remove those unconscious patterns and blocks.
Install new, healthy patterns that will help the client form new relationships, either with the person they are separating from, someone new or help them move on entirely.
Through this process, Joana helps the client go from tragedy and triumph.
Joana's story
Joana has always been interested in relationship breakups and what happens in the brain during that event and process. Before that, she was a business and life coach, so personal development has always been her 'thing'.
5 years ago, Joana had a traumatic separation. Going through that pain, she was wondering why she couldn't get past the breakup because she had all the knowledge of personal and neurological development. Why couldn't she get over this person?
So, she went through a search of what happens during separation (for a relationship or a marriage). It became a fascinating journey.
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The way we end relationships impacts our lives but also impacts the lives of others. Because, we teach by example. Therefore, the way we breakup is watched and emulated by others.
Awareness is the first step of healing. When you're aware, you're in charge. Whenever you're not aware the situation is in control of you.
The moment you know it, the moment you can do something about it.
As adults, we recreate a lot of the stories we learnt when we were little.
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