Do you have personas for different situations to make sure you’re never “wrong” or out of place? When talking with other people, do you constantly gauge their reactions and make assumptions about what they think of you (i.e. you’re boring, you’re dumb, there is something terribly wrong with you)? Maybe you fear all hell will break loose if you show who you really are. Those assumptions are based on your negative beliefs, and trying to avoid them turns you into an anxious chameleon, walking on eggshells to avoid rejection (that’s quite the visual, isn’t it?!).
Chameleons spend a lot of time and energy trying to disprove their negative beliefs. Putting on a circus act will show you’re not boring. No one will accuse you of being dumb if you always quote from scholarly books. But where are YOU in all this? By trying to prevent people from seeing your negative traits (which may be entirely in your head), you don’t allow yourself to feel your good beliefs.
When you embrace your negative beliefs, an amazing thing happens. You start feeling the good you never allowed yourself to feel before. A compliment actually means something (you can feel it) because you’re not afraid of losing it. In this episode I’ll show you how to be the worst of who you fear you are… and own it. Only then can you be who you are wherever you go instead of constantly adapting to your environment.
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