When is Perfectionism Healthy in a Relationship? #41

Can you have a healthy relationship with a perfectionist? Most people will answer in the negative since perfectionism is something that has hurt more relationships than developed. It's for this same reason that my boyfriend denies being a perfectionist.

On this week's episode of The Interracial Couple Podcast, we discuss:

1. what is perfectionism, and how is perfectionism different from having high standards?

2. is perfectionism cultural?

3. how can we make one partner's perfectionism work for the other and the relationship?

4. how do we temper our high expectations of our partner's perfectionist traits so that perfectionism doesn't become controlling

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MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

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She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products.