S2 E30 Fall in Love with the Process

In this episode we are diving in a bit deeper to discuss the PURPOSE takeaway from S2 E27- New Year Solutions, Remember it's a process, not an outcome.

--The past couple of episodes, including this one, have been based on principles we have learned from listening to Atomic Habits by James Clear. If you don't already have an audible account, you can go to audibletrial.com/mindbodypurpose and listen for free! We highly recommend it!--

1) Win over and over again

If you focus on the outcome, you win one time. But, if you optimize on the process, you win over and over again.

There is a lot of satisfaction to be found in the the pursuit of something.

As long as we are “pointed” in the direction we desire, or are on the “path,” then we get to feel how we want to feel right now. We get to experience in advance the feelings we are hoping to feel once we have accomplished the goal at hand. We don’t suddenly feel the way we want to when we achieve something. Rather, we feel it in advance and then once we achieve it, it feels normal. Because we are on the path to achieve our goals, actively engaged in the process, we are already going to be experiencing those feelings along the way. If we are only focusing on the goal, we miss on so much that is in the lead up.

By focusing on the process, or the pursuit, it keeps us in the here and now. Having the ability to stay present and utilize mindfulness will help us see the everyday victories in our processes. By definition, mindfulness is experiencing the present while you are in it. Often we beat ourselves up for something we did, or didn't do in the past, or we are looking too far ahead to realize what is happening in the here and now. Being mindful keeps us in a safe space, allowing us to take things one habit and one step at a time. If we concentrate on the process, it forces us to take one step, one habit, one moment at a time.

Trust in the process.

2) Make peace with making mistakes

If we're focusing on the process, we get to win over and over again, but we also might find that we are failing over and over again as well. And that is to be expected! Every time we fall short of where we anticipated, it is an opportunity to show ourselves that we are capable of being resilient. We will be building the habit of getting back up again.

Failures and mistakes are lessons and opportunities for growth, not a negative reflection on our abilities or self worth. If we are focused on the process, we will be able to see that clearly and view setbacks as a challenge, not a paralyzing event.

Our inner dialogue matters-- if we believe that we cannot start again, we will find a way to prove ourselves right.

3) Celebrate others’ success

As we are creating these processes, and doing our best to focus on them, it can be tempting to compare our process to someone else's, especially someone who we perceive as already succeeding at what we are trying to accomplish. If we can replace the temptation to compare, with the inspiration to cheer them on, it will transform us!

If we can genuinely celebrate others, it allows us to feel secure in our process and our life. It will take us out of competition, and help us practice our belief in the possibility of our own success.

Seeing success in others, and celebrating them can shift our energy into abundance and gratitude.
We'll be able to see our potential and be grateful for the process. There is beauty in the becoming.

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