#9 Covert Narcissist

In today's episode we talk to Kitty, a Life Coach specializing in Trauma and PTSD,  Kitty's journey of addiction, her son's brush with death and her own brush with death in the 2015 Nepal earthquake, surviving this relationship and the loss of her brother brings her to where she is today. Kitty talks about living with a "covert" Narcissist for 12 years. A Wolf in Sheep's clothing and the dangers of intimate relationships with these covert narcs. Her story is not uncommon, as young girls we become co dependent and want to people please and not say no just to keep the peace or be loved. This, along with other traumas in life causes the trauma bond and continues into our adult relationships looking for that love, for that peace we want, so we don't see the red flags, sometimes til its too late. She thought he seemed like a better than average human, but he had a double life, if not a TRIPLE life. She was devastated. Unlike Overt Narcs, Covert is silence, its the "implied" words and yes its also love bombing, but its subtle and usually no anger, but neglect. Kitty talks about how she had that "gut feeling" something was off, but she couldn't prove anything because he was so good at hiding it and making her believe it was all in her head. He agreed to couples counseling, which is unusual for narcs, but he made her seem crazy in counseling as well. Typical narcissistic behavior, he was the good guy and never did anything wrong, but then again he convinced her of his love. Kitty talks about how we need to heal our co dependency and our self depricating love so we can cultivate good relationships. She will work with you on creating boundaries. Do you attract selfish manipulative people? Do you feel like you often say yes when you really mean no?   www.coachkat.org

Thank you Kitty for coming on and telling your incredible journey and how you are helping others cope and thrive! You are truly an Empowered Woman.