Selfishness - The Ultimate Act of Self Love with Dr. Marcuetta Sims

From as early as childhood, we have been taught to be generous with our time and energy. Any hint of selfishness is frowned upon. Even with our careers, we learn that being a team player is critical to our success. Today, Dr. Marcuetta Sims, a licensed psychologist specializing in helping Black women and people from marginalized identities heal from trauma, develop a healthier sense of Self, and enhance their overall wellness, discusses the costs of this generosity. Dr. Sims has created an online platform empowering Black women to care for themselves, The Art of Being Self-ish. She is also the founder of the The Worth, Wisdom, and Wellness Center. We chat about setting boundaries in personal and professional settings, addressing violations of those boundaries, and reframing underlying beliefs that cause us to deprioritize ourselves. 

 

Find links and show notes at https://breakconcrete.com/bc038.

Topics Covered:

• Defining selfishness
• How selfishness may serve the collective good and help us to develop a healthy sense of Self
• Why Dr. Sims started the online platform, The Art of Being Selfish
• Understanding and setting boundaries
• Consequences of failing to set boundaries
• Communicating your boundaries to others
• Counteracting feelings of guilt when putting yourself first
• How to say “No” and prioritize your interests
• Recognizing your limitations and asking for help
• Addressing violations of your boundaries in the workplace 
• How remote work can challenge our boundaries 
• Being selfish about salary negotiations
• Reframing inhibiting underlying beliefs

 

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