45: How To Say "No" Without Feeling Bad

Today we’ll talk about why it's hard to say "no" when others ask us to take on extra work. I'll explain the two reactions your brain has hardwired to make you feel guilty for saying no, why your mind and body need to stop saying no to every request, and how to say "no" without feeling guilty.

Two prime culprits make us feel guilty about saying no, and create inner turmoil and stress. Reason number one is you've learned to be a people pleaser. Reason number two is your inner perfectionist who wants to be able to do it all.

Find out why our brains are programmed to say "yes," how we can quickly burnout when we practice pleasing people, and why perfectionism can lead you down the path to burnout. Learn why it takes skill to say no, why it's harder to say no than to say yes, and the repercussions of saying yes to every request.

Show Highlights

[01:34] Saying yes so we don’t have to feel guilty about saying “no.”

[02:12] Being a people pleaser will lead you down the rabbit hole of feeling guilt. 

[04:16] Why being a perfectionist will lead you to say “yes” to everything.

[07:00] How your brain overloads when you say yes to every request.

[08:31] Every time you’re saying “yes” to one task, you’re saying “no” to something else.

[10:14] How to say “no” without feeling guilt.

[13:14] Why it takes effort to learn to say “no.”

[16:50] Follow-through and stick to your guns after saying “no.”

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