S2 E42 Loving BOLDly with Jessica Frew

We had such a great time talking about LOVING BOLDLY with Jessica Frew of the Husband-in-law podcast.

On her podcast, she is a co-host with her ex-husband, and her current husband. They talk about marriage, ex-marriage, divorce, ex-divorce, coming out, and living boldly. You can find Jessica on instagram @husband_in_law or listen to her podcast of the same name wherever you listen to podcasts! (It's sooo good, we highly recommend it.)

One of Jessica’s super powers is definitely loving boldly-- she has worked to understand that and uses her experiences to help others. She discovered this power when she found out her first husband was gay 6 months into their marriage. They continued to be happily married for 5.5 more years after that point.

Through all of this, she learned how to give him the love that he needed and how to give herself the love that she needed at the same time. She has continued to learn to love him in a new way-- through infidelity, divorce, and post-divorce.

Takeaways to help us LOVE BOLDLY:

MIND: Open your mind

You will be in situations where you could never imagine loving someone.

But, when we open our minds to seeing love in a new way and in a new light, we become open to the possibilities of what love can look like and how different it can be.

It sounds simple, but if you can find a new perspective and see a relationship differently, you can love differently.

Love can be found everywhere-- it can be in different phases, in different shapes, and all encompassing.

BODY: Listen to your body when setting boundaries

Our bodies tell us so much about what we are feeling. Our bodies have so much power in telling us our boundaries and where we feel, or don’t feel safe.

If it is a situation or relationship that we do not feel safe in, a boundary has been crossed, and we need to adjust to make sure we are being loving to ourselves.

If we need to walk away from the conversation or situation, we can. We can be very clear. Oftentimes we need space to process our emotions, and it’s not the best time or place to do that when our bodies are telling us that our boundaries have been crossed.

Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is acknowledge that our relationship looks different and has different boundaries, and that’s ok.

PURPOSE: See the love around you

We were sent to this earth to learn to love ourselves and to love each other.

When we learn to love ourselves, we can learn to love others in ways we didn’t even imagine.

Open yourself up to see love in personal and unique ways.

When we open ourselves up to love in each unique person, we are able to live, not only in our purpose, but also see others’ and their purpose.

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