My Top 3 Parenting Mistakes

"It's not how we make mistakes, but how we correct them that defines us." 
~ Rachel Wolchin

#3 Catastrophizing! 

This is one of my all-time favorites. Some people have accused me of making this word up, but it's a real word with a real definition. 

catastrophize

: to imagine the worst possible outcome of an action or event: to think about a situation or event as being a catastrophe or having a potentially catastrophic outcome

This is one of the biggest mistakes that I make as a parent and that I see many of my clients making. They will see a circumstance, maybe their teen's action, and they will start worrying about the worst possible outcome. 

"They'll die in a ditch somewhere," or, "They'll ruin their future," or, "They'll live in my basement FOREVER!"

I am guilty of doing this. When my sons want to blow off practice for their sport, my brain goes to, "They'll probably never play, if they even make the team at all."

#2 Trying to Fix, Change, or Control Your Teen.

This one is HUGE! This one rivals number one on this list. Again, this is something that I am often guilty of as a parent. And, it is something that I see over and over with the parents that I work with. Whether it's happening in my life, my clients lives, or your life, I can tell you this; you CANNOT fix, change, or control anyone else! 

Not only is this something that you cannot do, but it will cause huge amounts of frustration and negative emotion in your life. 

Trying to fix, change, or control your teen is trying to get part of their model to fit into your result line in your model. 

Bonus - Honorable Mentions

• Not knowing and/or defining your core values as a parent.
• Not knowing and/or defining your role as a parent.
• Trying to be perfect
• Thinking you're not good enough

#1 Focusing On Things OUTSIDE of Your Control

This is the #1 thing that I am seeing right now in my own life and in my experience working with parents that is a "mistake." And, by mistake I mean that this is an action that they are taking that does not lead to the results that they want. 

Recently I've worked with parents who are obsessed about the decisions that their teens are or are not making in regards to life choices, like school, grades, graduation, college, and marriage. 

I've coached parents who are upset with their in-laws. They want them to behave differently when it comes to their grandkids and their roles as grandparents. 

I recently coached a parent who found out about some of her teens actions from years in the past that could come with some pretty severe consequences. She is so worried about how others will take the news, whether her son will take responsibility, what will the fami

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