93. How to Overcome Power Struggles when Kids Oppose Your Decision to Remarry

Most of us want to have a healthy sense of parental authority with our kids.  We want to lead our home with purpose and make quality decisions that are best for the kids' future — and for ours. 

But often in the complexities of divorce, loss and single-parenting, the "balance of power" can unintentionally shift toward the kids.  When that happens, they gain more and more control over the daily decisions of the household.  It usually seems innocent enough at the time…

…but when this happens it can rob you of your parenting confidence and hijack the decisions you know are best.  And ultimately, this dynamic can set the stage for resistance when you make a decision that your kids don't agree with — such as wanting to remarry and blend families.

Power struggles with kids create BIG challenges.  We know this from our own personal experience.  When it happens, you're left feeling powerless, frustrated and defeated as you try to convince the kids to get on board, but it's just met with conflict and resistance — and you remain stuck in a power struggle.

In this episode, we'll explore how power struggles develop and what you can do  to shift the power in your home while still supporting your kids.  All without losing your sanity!

You'll Discover:

• How power-shifts can naturally occur during the single-parent years
• Why it's important to regain parental authority as you "blend" 
• Critical DO's and DON'T's that will help you to effectively shift the power in your home 
• Why shifting the power will help you avoid the pitfall of a Parent-Child Allegiance 

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 92:  At a Loss and Feel Defeated Because the Kids Stubbornly Refuse to Blend?
• Book Series:  Boundaries by Drs Henry Cloud and John Townsend
• Episode 73:  4 Simple Principles for Setting Healthy Boundaries with Kids
• Blog:  Two Simple Steps to Move Past Paralyzed Parenting
• Episode 59:  Why are you stuck in a parent-child allegiance
• Parenting Resource:  Love and Logic Parenting Method
• Episode 61:  How to Partner well as a stepparent - even if you feel stuck on the outside
• Episode 17: 6 Simple Steps that will Help You Respond to Disrespect
• Episode 28: What If What You Think Is Defiance, Is Actually Something Else?
• Episode  27: 

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