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Parenting on the Same Page: Magical or Mythical?
The Myth of Parenting on The Same Page
The myth of parenting on the same page is that it will "fix" all of your problems in your relationship and with your teens.
The myth is that when you parent on the same page, you will magically agree with everything that your spouse does. Or even better yet, they will magically agree with everything that you do.
The Problem with "Same Page" Parenting
I have many problems with same page parenting.
I've seen spouses manipulate each other in name of "Parenting on the Same Page." I've seen one parent try to control, change, or fix the other parent, convinced that they are the whole problem.
Oftentimes parents will both abandon their values and inner strengths in an effort to meet in the middle somewhere. Now you've got two parents parenting out of alignment with their personal values and strengths.
When parents try to parent on the same page, one or both often begin to see themselves as a victim in the relationship, at the mercy of the other.
Why It's Important to Parent on the Same Team, Not on the Same Page
By now I'm sure you've noticed that I love sports analogies. They make sense in my brain.
Look at your parenting relationship with your spouse as being on a team.
On teams, there are different members of the same team who have different strengths, skills, and values.
When you parent from the mentality of being on the same team, you empower the other parent to embrace their values, strengths, and skills to be the best that they can be.
You allow them to be them.
You trust that what they bring to the team is exactly what is needed. You notice and appreciate what they bring to the table.
How Parent on the Same Team (even when you're NOT on the same page)
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By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.
This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.
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