IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective
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What are Habitual Beliefs?
Habitual beliefs are beliefs that are simply habits. If you're like most people, you think and believe them without even realizing it. Just like most other habits, you've thought and believed these beliefs so many times that they come completely natural to you and it all happens unconsciously.
Most people believe their habitual thoughts are actually fact or truth. When this happens, you start to incorporate your habitual beliefs as part of your identity.
Habitual beliefs create habitual emotions. Emotions that underscore other emotions.
Where Did Your Habitual Beliefs Come From and How Do They Benefit You?
Developing awareness is one of the most powerful things you can do in all areas of your life. I talk about awareness ALL OF THE TIME! So, here we go again.
It's powerful to understand where these habitual beliefs came from and when you started developing the habit of thinking this way. This awareness and understanding will give you the power to shift your beliefs.
Take some time to really explore where your habitual beliefs came from. When did you start thinking this way?
Next, explore, "How have these beliefs served me"?
Everything you believe benefits you on some level. Find the benefits so you are fully aware of what's going on.
How Are Your Habitual Beliefs No Longer Benefiting You?
When I believe, "I'm not good enough" I hold myself back. I feel regular self-doubt. I don't take risks, and I don't do scary things like building my business.
How are your beliefs no longer benefiting you?
One of my clients had the habitual belief, "Bad grades can ruin your life." For her, this belief started at a very young age. She was told that she needed to get good grades to be successful. This belief has benefited her in her life because she earned very good grades. She got scholarships to help her go to college. She learned how to work hard.
But, she realized that this belief was no longer serving her. When she applied this belief to her teen she felt scared, which led to the action of her trying to control and/or fix her teen and make him get better grades, which created the result of a lot of tension in their relationship.
Choosing New Habitual Beliefs
YOU have the power to choose what you will think and believe. You have the power to choose what thoughts and beliefs you will give attention to. You are where your attention is.
You don't have to be driven by your old habitual beliefs.
They may have benefited you in the past, but if they are no longer benefiting you, you can choose new beliefs.
YOU ARE NOT YOUR HABITUAL BELIEFS!
How to Shift Your Habitual Beliefs
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