67. Myth Busters: Blue Balls And Wet Dreams

Welcome to episode #67!

This week, Matt and Braden bust myths about blue balls and wet dreams. Tune in to hear yet another episode about things you've probably never heard talked about in public.

Blue balls are real - but not nearly as common or bad as men claim
This is the definition of blue balls from healthline.com:

"Blue balls, known medically as epididymal hypertension (EH), is a condition that can affect people with male genitals. It's not serious, but causes pain and aching in the testicles after having an erection without an orgasm."

Is this real? Yes. Is it life threatening for every man? No. Typically, a man can distract himself for 5-15 minutes, go to the washroom, and take deep breaths to make an erection go away. When he does this, the physical tension that is built up will disappear and he'll feel completely normal physically. There might be emotional disappointment that he has to deal with about not having an orgasm, so he'll have to deal with that if it's there.

Blue balls should never be used as manipulation for sex in a marriage!

Wet dreams don't stop at 20
We're told that only teenagers get wet dreams, but lots of teens don't even get them because they masturbate from a young age. When people start conquering their addiction, even as adults, wet dreams will commonly start happening because God designed the male body to release the semen in this way periodically.

In the episode, the guys expand on what to do if you have shame around wet dreams or if you're a wife and are ashamed that your husband is getting them. You're not alone if this is the case. Seek understanding and don't allow shame to fill your thought life!

Don't be a victim
Blue balls and the visual dreams that come with wet dreams can seem overwhelming in the moment, but they are in fact only momentary. Don't be a victim to either because then you're saying that it's God's fault that you're in sin or it's your wife's fault that you're turning to other outlets. Learn to conquer both blue balls and the thoughts of fantasy that can associate wet dreams. You can do it!

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Next week, Matt and Braden bust more myths! This time it'll be myths around the wedding night and sexy test drives. Make sure to tune in!

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BRADEN HAFNER

Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 12 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE

Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honored to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.