Is It Your Job To Make Your Partner Happy - Episode 56

Are you responsible for your partner’s happiness? Ever since we were young, it seems like we’ve been groomed to believe that our happiness is dependent on some external thing, person or relationship. This becomes even more apparent when we enter serious relationships or get married. Many of us feel the obligation or sense of duty to please and help our spouse find happiness.

In this episode, we take a deeper look at how attaching your personal happiness to another person can actually create a toxic relationship, and how it’s more important to take ownership of your happiness by looking within. Sometimes, we avoid facing our deeper issues and try to put a band-aid on them by jumping into new relationships or not acknowledging that we need to work on ourselves first. 

 

0:00 Intro

1:13 Welcome banter

3:57 Start of topic

6:00 Why we feel obligated to make our partner happy

10:17 Work on yourself first

12:00 Becoming co-dependent on your spouse

15:49 Giving up control of your happiness

17:54 Avoiding the real issues

19:19 You can’t make someone else happy

23:30 Be empathetic and supportive

27:43 Its ok to not be ok

29:05 Takeaways & lessons learned