Episode 36: How to build a healthy relationship with your body

Welcome back to another episode of Money Magic. This week we have a returning guest on the show, my friend and trainer Lungile, who is also a #MoneyMagic student. 

Lungi is a fitness trainer who helps women reach their fitness goals using their feminine cycle, making her the perfect candidate to discuss today’s topics of body dysmorphia. 

Body dysmorphia is a mental health disorder in which you can’t stop thinking about perceived “flaws” in your appearance. Generally, these thoughts are a result of past trauma and are only visible to you; the outside world sees nothing wrong.

Lungi’s journey into overcoming her internalized body trauma started as a young girl. Growing up, she had always received compliments on her body, but that was about the extent of her praise.

Instead of being viewed as a whole holistic person, she felt objectified and depersonalized, which she then internalized into pain.

As Lungile puts it, there are no coincidences in life. Though the seed of fitness was planted by trauma, a forest of fearlessness and confidence blossomed.

 In the early years of her fitness journey, Lungile would approach it by two extremes of either intense dedication or no motivation at all. 

It wasn’t until she began to fall in love with herself through womb-work that she fully embraced and had compassion for herself. With that came the confidence of not accepting anything less than what she deserved and cut disrespectful people out of her life. 

Lungile’s final act as a reformed woman was her decision to shave her head. She defines this moment of sovereignty as letting go of things that no longer serve her and tortured her soul; this case is her hair. Where she stands now, Lungile is beyond elated of the progress she has made and the lives she has impacted. 

 

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Timestamps:

[03:36] Introduction to Ngubane (Lungile)

[04:09] Body dysmorphia

[05:14] Journey into overcoming body trauma

[10:31] How childhood trauma manifests into adulthood behaviour

[14:02] Getting to a point of fearlessness

[16:41] Having compassion for yourself

[19:05] What did you notice when you started being tender with yourself?

[25:45] Getting to the point of falling in love with yourself        

[27:38] Did the gentleness change how you trained?

[33:50] The pressure that comes with fitness

[36:15] The relationship between softness and building a business

[39:34] Connect with Lungile

[42:23] Outro

 

Contact Lungi:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lungile.ngubane3

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lungilered/

Email: Lungilered@gmail.com

 

PS: If this conversation on healing is resonating with you and you feel ready to start healing your ancestral money trauma, then I invite you to check out and register for the #MoneyMagic course (or the waiting list) at this link: wealthy-money.com/moneymagic