“Don’t take yourself too seriously, life is too short to be serious all the time.”
–Jed Barker
More often than not, the thing that stands in the way of us achieving our full potential is ourselves, and because human beings are prone to self-delusion, we are usually the last to realize that the source of our problems lies within. That’s about to change; in today’s episode we’re going to reveal 3 of the common self-sabotage snares that hinder success, so you can avoid them!
If you haven't noticed by now, we're all about helping you create a thriving mortgage business without sacrificing your family, fulfillment, faith, fitness, or whatever else is important to you. If this is the life you want, and you’re not quite sure how to get there, this episode will get you on the right track!
“Being human, we have an infinite capacity for self-delusion. We have an infinite capacity for being the last person to notice how we self-sabotage ourselves, because when you’re inside the bottle it’s hard to see the label.”
–Doren Aldana
Show Notes:
[0:51] – The importance of the topic we are going to be discussing today.
[03:31] – Delusional optimism; one major way that people self-sabotage.
[04:54] – Advice from Al about how to get away from the dangerous habit of delusional optimism.
[06:24] – Al shares some stories which highlights what delusional optimism can look like.
[08:03] – Jed explains the difference between optimism and delusional optimism.
[09:22] – A classic case of delusional optimism in the mortgage loan industry.
[12:16] – How to tell if you are suffering from delusional optimism.
[13:32] – “I already know that” – why this phrase is a form of self-sabotage.
[15:05] – Al’s personal experience of allowing his ego to take control, and what everyone else can learn from this.
[17:49] – The value of having a strong support team.
[19:09] – Doren shares a story which embodies the concept that “the teacher learns more than the student.”
[22:06] – Why we recommend that our clients track and measure their time.
[23:33] – Self-sabotage practice number 3: Working on your job to the neglect of yourself.
[26:31] – The Best Life Mortgage Philosophy.
[27:32] – Achieving a good work-life balance is key to success.
[30:18] – Where, other than work, you should be focusing your energy.
[32:00] – The number of hours you should be working per week, and examples of other activities which should take up the rest of your time.
[35:29] – Doren shares a story about two lumberjacks, which highlights the importance of focusing on things outside of work.
[38:29] – What is your definition of success?
[40:24] – Mistakes that Doren made early on in his career.
[41:47] – The simple (but not easy) strategy to achieving success.
[43:47] – Hear if Best Life coaching is for you.
[45:15] – Where you can learn about our value proposition, and what to do if it resonates with you.
“If we have a plan, we won’t be delusional, we’ll be optimistic.
You’ve gotta drop the delusion out of there altogether; optimism is the way to go.”
–Jed Barker
Links and Resources:
The Legendary Lender Home Page
Best Life Mortgage Home Page
Mortgage Marketing Coach on Facebook
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