Remodel and Restore, Working with What You Have

SHOW NOTES:

On this show…we’re going to give ourselves a second look, check out a new angle, and be ready to dust off the lenses because we’re looking to remodel and restore and work with what we have. Don’t like where you are in life, what you’re doing, or what you’ve become? Before you trowel in the towel in an attempt to start over, let’s look at some positive changes you can make which will have a huge impact on your life and your livelihood. Time flies and before you know it you’ve made one too many questionable choices or have put off today what you intended to do tomorrow, or the next day, or the next day. And here you are thinking WOW I’m really here but the thought of getting back on track or there, anywhere seems unfathomable. So here we will sit and dream about something more. NO WAY. How could we possibly be satisfied with that?

I developed the name Phase II - well maybe not created it into the human language but I adopted it for my coaching practice. Phase  II Reimagining Life.  This is because I’m convinced there is another Phase, and then another. You get a chance to continue your life living differently. You don’t get a new life but that doesn’t mean once you get started in a certain direction, that you have to stay on the path. You don’t even have to hit a life-changing roadblock to want to change your mind and your direction.  It’s your choice. Isn’t that amazing - you have choices! Now and all the way through your life. There is only one phase that is destined, the rest is up to you. 

Some might look at that statement as if I’m wearing rose-colored glasses and am in no way affected by the real world. You’re half right -  I do wear rose-colored glasses, not because I’m insensitive or unaware but because I chose to. It’s my choice. By looking for the good first - I see the good first. 

I realize our environment, how we were raised, our family dynamics and a host of other things directly impact what comes easy to use or difficult for us. But it stops there. We have choices, on a large or small scale, we have choices that will dramatically shape our lives. 

As a life coach, I find ways to navigate the future instead of being stuck by the limitations of our past. This could include visiting past traumas to release our guilt and shame so that we can move on but the concentration is in Phase II.

Maybe we all could use a little time in the rose-colored glasses.  A journalist at the Donalsonville News thinks so in their article: Everyone should have a pair of rose-colored glasses

At SoulSalt I found 7 Actionable Strategies to Get Back on Track (Starting Today)

Zulie Rane enlightens us with Why Your Brain Doesn’t Let You Believe the Compliments You Receive - Sometimes it’s hard to accept the good about yourself.

Dr. Shonna Waters explains in her article: The path to self-acceptance, paved through daily practice  found a betterup.com

KEY HIGHLIGHTS - Remodel and Restore, Working with What You Have

1. By looking for the good first - you see the good first
2. Good moods enhance the literal size of the window through which we see the world.  The upside of this is that we can see things from a more global, or integrative perspective.
3. When life doesn’t go as planned, you can’t always choose your situation. But you can choose how you react.
4. Making changes for the better often means taking a good, hard look in the mirror. And that takes a lot of honesty and courage to face those underlying issues.
5. It’s so easy to believe in, linger on, eternally reflect on the negative even when it’s overwhelmingly outweighed by the positive.
6. You can’t simultaneously believe you suck and believe someone else when they say that you don’t.
7. Research showed that people who routinely dismissed positive comments actually had a harder time remembering the level of positivity of the feedback, more so than people who accepted them, to begin with.
8. Self-acceptance is the act of accepting yourself and all your personality traits exactly as they are
9. Reviewing your goals and your progress on them reminds you of your strengths.
10.  Learning to accept yourself helps you create a more positive, compassionate, and balanced view of yourself

 

CHALLENGE: take action today to get your life back on track and heading in a new direction. Phase II means reimagining life and you’re in charge of the process. Enlist a trusted friend to get you over the hump of self-doubt and down the path to self-acceptance. 

 

I Know YOU Can Do It!