EP. 59 Emotional Intelligence Builds Self Esteem; Wanting to be your kids friend is causing our kids to be anxious & ashamed. with Special Guest Dr. J.J.Kelly

Welcome Back No-Problem Parents!

Do you have a tween or teen that is struggling with;

• Ongoing conflicts in relationships

• Intense and rapid mood changes

• Inability to relax

• Trouble recognizing choice

• Holding in anger, then “blowing up” at others

• Impulsive or reactive decisions they often regret

• Self-medicating with substances, e.g., food, sugar, alcohol,

"busy-ness", spending, etc.

• Feeling overwhelmed

• Avoiding responsibilities, people, or events

• “Numbing out” in response to fear, anger, etc?

Are you worried, nervous around them, unsure what to do or how to talk to your teen?  Are you trying to be your child's friend in an effort to be relatable or smooth things over enough to have a good day?  Guess what? Your uncertainty, your "being nice" may actually be causing our kids to be anxious and ashamed.

Listen in to the conversation about how we need to talk with our teens as much (or more)

about our thoughts as we do our feelings. 

Meet Dr. J.J. Kelly, of Unorthodocs, Inc.

"After 16 years of passionately working in the current system of the mental health profession and seeing the systemic sexism, racism, homophobia, ableism, narcissism and elitism…I wanted nothing more than to burn it all down. Then I decided to redirect my outrage into building something new based on love, laughter, and teaching emotional intelligence – because I believe that global healing is achieved by teaching people the skills to like themselves, or as I always say….Happy people act right."

Dr. J.J. offers courses through her Get Real Program, an emotional skills training program based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). DBT was developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan and combines Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) and Zen Mindfulness skills from Thich Nhat Hahn’s book, The Miracle of Mindfulness.

"DBT is The Sh**, and I make learning a complex set of concepts and skills fun and funny. Yer gonna laugh yourself right into healthy…” – Dr. Kelly

Listen in as Dr. J.J. Kelly shares that Emotional Intelligence is key to building self-esteem, Family Values are more important than having a "friendship" with your child and why humor is SO important to our mental health! 

"Global healing is achieved by teaching people the skills to like themselves. The Get Real Program created by licensed clinical psychologist Dr. J.J. Kelly does just that."

Learn more about Dr. J.J. Kelly's approach, programs and freebies by clicking the links:

https://www.drjjkelly.com/

Follow the Punk Rock Doc on IG: https://www.instagram.com/drjjkelly/

 

During our conversation I share the Make it Right Technique which can be found here: 

The Make It Right Technique for No-Problem Parents

Thank You Dr. Kelly for the fun conversation and sharing your authentic self and perspective.  I appreciate your candidness and genuine care for teenagers.  

Hugs & High Fives,

Jaci

PS: To learn more about how YOU can Become a No-Problem Parent™, get started here:

https://www.noproblemparenting.com/