How would you notice if you were people pleasing? What would you do about it?

Most people are kind and want to do as much as they can to be helpful, whether that means saying yes to doing extra things at work, helping out a friend or even texting back and forth with someone.

 

But there are times when we suddenly realize that we feel like we are being taken advantage of. That our kindness is being taken for granted.

 

Or maybe we don’t really want to do the thing but feel awkward or guilty about saying no.

 

I wondered how other people noticed when they might be doing something for reasons other than actually wanting to.

 

Frank Galindo started us off by saying he tries to pay attention to when he is saying yes all the time without thinking about if the other person is even considering that it might be causing him stress.

 

Chandima Dutton shared that asking questions is a great way to create some distance between their ask and your answer. The more you understand about what they need the better you are equipped to know if it is something you can, should or want to do.

 

During the conversation I realized that I notice I need to be careful about people pleasing when I get a text or email from someone and I’m not happy to hear from them.

 

Near the end of the conversation Douglas MacGray pointed out that sometimes you are willing to go out of your way, give more than you otherwise might, because you want to help and that isn’t the same as people pleasing.

 

What about you? How do you notice when you might be people pleasing and what do you do about it? 

 

Connect with the panelists:
Chandima Dutton: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chandimadutton/

Douglas MacGray, J.D., C.F.P.(r): https://www.linkedin.com/in/dmacgray/

Francisco "Frank" Galindo: https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankgalindo-mba/

Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

 

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