Transformational Healing

This is a LIVE replay of A Trauma Survivor Thriver's Podcast which aired Wednesday, January 25th, 2023 at 1130am ET on Fireside Chat.

Today's Guest is Corinne Coppola, Mental Health Coach, IFS Practitioner, Trauma Recovery Specialist and Founder of R.E.S.T Retreats.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:01:06 
Welcome. I'm Lorilee Binstock and this is A Trauma Survivor Thriver’s Podcast
Thank you so much for joining me live on a Fireside chat you can be a part of the conference
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Today's guest is Current Cop, mental health coach, iss
practitioner trauma recovery specialist,
and founder of rest retreats
current, thank you so much for joining me today.

Corinne Coppola  00:02:05 
You're welcome, Marlene. My pleasure, and it's just to
let you know the pronunciation is Cor.

Lorilee Binstock  00:02:11 
Cup
paula. Thank you so much for for correcting me because I probably would call you
in the whole time. So thank you so much.

Corinne Coppola  00:02:19 
No problem. No problem.

Lorilee Binstock  00:02:23 
Well, first of all, I wanna talk about your journey to get you to where you are now.
Really, what made you want to work
as a mental health coach.

Corinne Coppola  00:02:32 
It's
a really good question. I never thought I wind up here for sure.
When I was a little girl, I told my parents that I wanted to be
counselor, you know, back then, it was called count
we're not therapist and they said, well, you're not gonna earn any money doing

Lorilee Binstock  00:02:50 
Mhmm

Corinne Coppola  00:02:52 
you better go into business. So that's what I did at the time.
And then I found my way
is in the business world for a number of years worth for profit for profit,
have my masters and organization development, and then just
radio and Mindfulness as a practice to help
ground me, keep me steady. I had three young the children at the
time
And I thought, wow, This is really a way that I can help service
people and help them because it helped those practice
this really helped me so much. And then
I started teaching, and then I worked for a long profit bringing wine centers to this
and I started working on retreats and
things just... And then I was brought to a cactus

Lorilee Binstock  00:03:42 
Yeah.

Corinne Coppola  00:03:43 
called Internal family systems. And I thought, wow, This is really phenomenal.
And powerful for me and my own healing journey
and I thought I really
wanna be able to do this with people. So that
they can also rewrite their past.
And that's how I got to where I am.
That being said, there's also, you know, some traumas around my
childhood and my adult wife that came to play into
being motivated to heal.
You know? And that how now
I am working with people and one on one of small groups and
leading retreats and
I could not
the more alignment and more grateful and
happy.
Itself

Lorilee Binstock  00:04:31 
That's so wonderful.
You know, it's it's interesting. You... You know, you were working
in a traditional setting
even though you were were
you know,
empowered by mindfulness
But was it the trauma that actually
had you
move to towards, you know, being the founder of
these retreats and and

Corinne Coppola  00:04:58 
Mhmm.
Mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:04:58 
all of this and even trauma recovery
I know that you are specialist with was there was there
something that clicked where you said. This is what... I wanna go this route.
To help people recover from trauma.

Corinne Coppola  00:05:11 
Yeah. That is such a great question, Laura.
We'll we piecing it together by your great questions.
So, yes, the answer is yes. Well, when I first started,
taking yoga.
I belong to a gym, and one of my girlfriends just like, oh, you've gotta a
you gotta come to this eight am Sunday class and like,
No. That is my hurting to down. No. No.
That won't be happening. And the
The other side of that, actually, when I began my younger jury,
my youngest... My oldest daughter was only about two years old, Eighteen months
to two years and I was working part time finishing my masters part time And one of my friends had said
you really gotta try yoga the class like, okay. What else?
And
with
for those are you familiar with yoga, Is
the final relaxation pose. And when I went into Last,
I felt like I was home.

Lorilee Binstock  00:06:11 
Mm-mm

Corinne Coppola  00:06:13 
I was like, wow. This is pretty powerful.
But then I had my second child, and I had
difficult birth. So, like, I wasn't, you know, it it wasn't then what it is
now because he's twenty two. My daughter is twenty four.
And I have another son. Who's twenty, you know, twenty years ago, there wasn't the knowledge
that
prenatal yoga was okay for women who had complications.
So then fast forward to my youngest being three
And my girlfriend inviting me to this
class at the gym and I... And she was a phenomenal instructor finally, I went
she's a phenomenal director, and I thought
Okay. I'm gonna get back to yoga in a serious way.
So found studio that was close to my house and
that I had originally gone to years before.
And started to do additional classes there.
And while there? I was volunteering at the front dash
and there was a buck
by a woman by the name of maya.
And it was about how she healed herself.

Lorilee Binstock  00:07:22 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:07:23 
From like stage for cancer through our you
practices that were in her background, that she had been a go go go, you know,
fashion designer in New york and it was called a path of practice.
And
I was just fascinated by that, and
Monday, I was in
a group setting. I was in a trauma recovery group.
Myself is a participant for sexual abuse. I had
experienced from a close family member
and
I hadn't had these memories until I was forty. I am now fifty six.
So
I thought to myself when I was in that group, I it just came to me.
Like. Oh,
This is how yoga has been so healing for me.
I have to bring these practices to women and children.
You know? And from there, it was Gave Emerson
and Best
I think I was in their second cohost of a for
trauma for
I mean you excuse me yoga for trauma.
And my journey sort of just
started to unravel from there. Started to... I I went
myself on a retreat for women
survivors of sexual violence, and then they invited me back the next
year to co. So I co that retreat
for ten years, and it was so
powerful
for me to see the transformation that could happen in two and a half days.
And

Lorilee Binstock  00:09:05 
Mm-mm

Corinne Coppola  00:09:06 
by being in nature by being in play.
We weren't talking about our stories. Right? We were in our bodies. There was
movement, light yoga, drama, some meditation,
you know, just really back to being a kid.
And so then in my
in my jury, I
unfortunately, when my daughter was fourteen, so this is about this was
ten years ago, there is a suicide cluster at
high school. And I thought to myself, I can't just sit
on the sidelines lines with us and knowing how these
practices. We select practices can really hold
I was able to partner with a organization that was
just blossom. This is twenty thirteen, and
you know,
I said to them, we have to bring these practices to this
schools in Northern Virginia, which is where I was living at the time.
And it's sort of
came from that. I worked with them for four years. We got the school board involved.
We had a lot of high schools, you know,
hundreds and then into the thousands of young people and adults
you know, the teachers in the parents and
from there started to do started to co
and manage retreats for teens, and that also adults and
now here I am.
So
Yeah. It's just sort of, like, following the next best thing.
Right? The next best that, like, I did not have
like, the super plan
vision.
And at the same time,
like, I didn't have a pass, but I had a vision.

Lorilee Binstock  00:10:53 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:10:56 
Okay. So, like, I knew
nine, ten years ago when I was in close to read that,
I wanna leave a retreat back here in Costa Rica, And this
Marx,
I'm leading her retreat my first retreat and close rica gut. So
I would really you know, for me, it's just been following the bread.
You know? And with the intention to serve,
the intention to serve, like, how
can I use my guess?
To serve.
And in the same time,
you know, make a living.
Sound
That's
it's a long answer to your shared question.

Lorilee Binstock  00:11:35 
No. I love it. Thank you so much.
I love what you're talking about when when you talk about your
your experience and this retreat would it was just
play. It was your in your body, you want in your head,
Is that
what your rest retreats are, could you talk a little bit about that?
I... It's a it's an acronym. Right?
Right.

Corinne Coppola  00:11:57 
Right. Right. It's an acronym. So the r is for relaxed.

Lorilee Binstock  00:12:04 
Yeah

Corinne Coppola  00:12:03 
The x is for... The excuse me. They
e is for examine. The s more surrender.
And the t stands for transformation.
So
these retreats that I guide people on
are different than the survival retreats
that I did. There are elements.
In this retreat.
So
and I also give one on one
Vip retreats out in Shank critique Virginia where I live part
time on the eastern shore.
And so
the rest will be in the first
two days, you know, as people sort of enter
we're doing a
relaxation, integration, arriving,
The second day, I have a healer who's gonna do a beautiful sound journey
us. You know, then eighty three, we got it three and four we get in
to examine. Right? What patterns
because my the retreat is called killing the heart.
So what patterns have
origin in which I am not
living
to the potential of who I can be
inner world.
Right? It's sort of beginning to what
called ex the heart.
So practices, like,
each each day, will be seen out. So, for example, covered in compassion.
Right. Love and letting go. So we have to let
go of some things in order and have compassion for us
sounds
and the honors so that we can... We can be on this continuum
peeling. Then you know, they're surrender
Have a surprise
planned, but we also have a magnificent breath that
will be reading us in a workshop
you in terms of letting go, there'll be Journaling There'll be Arch
masked team movie
locks in nature.
And then we get to key
Right. That the acid surrender where we're letting and go and
we have
I'm just gonna say we have a musician coming in.
To really help us let go on our levels.
We'll be doing sunset.
Fire circle. And then the t is for transformation in the last
two days the last day is a cacao ceremony
with a
woman psychologist who I met last year who was down there, and she's
from close to Rica and just this beautiful healing hard
three hours ceremony yummy that we'll be having. And I'm keeping it small.
Intentionally, you know, eleven spots.
With some women who are
really just
phenomenal and are there to do
some deep work. You know, this... It's not
therapy. It's not... You know, that's not what I'm
what what my intention is, it's really
to create the safe community safe sacred community.
That
women can show up
as their best sounds, like,
all of their parts parts that
have been forgotten.
Like, who was I? When I was six seven eight years old and
I was magic and

Lorilee Binstock  00:15:43 
mm-mm

Corinne Coppola  00:15:44 
who took away that magic, like, loving reconnect
with that spirit, that sacred inside
so that
I can then bring these practices into my life.
And
live in a way that is in alignment with
who I wanna be and who I am.

Lorilee Binstock  00:16:04 
Well, nick... You know,
you talked about
and make hear you talking about parts. I have a lot of respect
for I. I'm actually an I Therapy every week.
Is do you bring that to
your respiratory retreats.

Corinne Coppola  00:16:19 
So
it depends on

Lorilee Binstock  00:16:26 
Mm-mm.

Corinne Coppola  00:16:26 
what the client wants
Right? So for the one on one,
Yes. Absolutely. For this small group,
retreats

Lorilee Binstock  00:16:39 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:16:38 
this is not is not the focus. However,
I can't not do it.
Meaning that... You know, that's who I am is
you know, speaking in, like, some of the journaling quest
will be internal family system based, but it's not as if
we're going to be having therapeutic sharing circles. Right?

Lorilee Binstock  00:17:00 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:17:01 
That we're gonna be doing parts work.
That's another type of retreat that I host. So
you know, it is... There will be parts work
And at the same time, it's not going be
group therapy.
People are there also to... Like, what's really important to me is
the four or five hours of quiet time that we'll have every afternoon.

Lorilee Binstock  00:17:22 
Yay.

Corinne Coppola  00:17:25 
So if you wanna sit by the pool and be quiet,
That's awesome we'll go to your room, take a nap. You wanna go into
excursions to go kayak, horse horseback writing,
lessons, you go do it, Zip lining, you know,
so that people can really
customize this experience to what they feel. They want and need
to that
you know, everything is optional. That's really, really a
important to me is to give everyone choice.

Lorilee Binstock  00:17:52 
You lasts

Corinne Coppola  00:17:55 
You know?
Because we're all adults.
And oftentimes in life, we feel like we don't have choices.
I mean, you know, that's free. I can only... I should only speak for myself.

Lorilee Binstock  00:18:05 
No. I feel that too.
I feel that too. I feel last week, I actually gotten a ski accident
And I feel like I could have a... I I there I have
choices to say, I need to rest. This is before the accident.
Because my life was just jam packed with so much stuff and
trying to catch up from the end of last year.
You know, from the holidays. And I was like, oh my gosh. I need a break, but I

Corinne Coppola  00:18:33 
Yeah.

Lorilee Binstock  00:18:33 
just felt like I couldn't get a break until I literally gotten in a little skiing
then all of a sudden, and I was in bed for a week, and I was like, I really feel like the universe is listening to me.

Corinne Coppola  00:18:40 
Okay.

Lorilee Binstock  00:18:43 
But, yes, it was it was really, you know,
there are times where I'm like, I feel like I'm in adult, and I don't have a choice. Like, I have

Corinne Coppola  00:18:48 
Did
We

Lorilee Binstock  00:18:52 
to cook dinner. I have to, you know, I you know, I
to do all these things. So it's nice. You know, I've looked at your treats so I'm like, oh, is
you know, this would be amazing for me. Unfortunately, my husband
be leaving to go out of the country during that time. So I have
be with my children, but I am looking forward to going to one of your retreats.

Corinne Coppola  00:19:12 
Oh, beautiful.

Lorilee Binstock  00:19:15 
Yes. I

Corinne Coppola  00:19:16 
Well, I'm sorry to hear about your your skiing accident.

Lorilee Binstock  00:19:20 
you know, it's really funny because
I I literally was telling my my If practitioner nor the week before I'm like, I just
feel like
I I need a break. I need a break. I can't
I feel like I keep going going going, and I feel guilty
I would feel guilty if I was, like, I need
I I'm gonna be in bed.
The thing is the universe heard me and was like, okay. We'll do this. And... You know,
my leg wasn't hurting when I was resting, but it was it was hurting when I was walking.

Corinne Coppola  00:19:46 
Yeah.

Lorilee Binstock  00:19:49 
So or attempting to. So I I felt like
know, it's one of things here you're you need to break. People need breaks
and

Corinne Coppola  00:19:56 
Mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:19:59 
sometimes it'll be a forced one.

Corinne Coppola  00:19:59 
Right.

Lorilee Binstock  00:20:03 
And sometimes it's gonna come at the most in opportune times
And I think what I've learned through my healing journey is that
you know, everything kind happens for a reason. Everything happens for reason. This is
the their signs and signals that are telling us, you know, it's time to rest, and then we it
it's our choice to listen and not listen.

Corinne Coppola  00:20:21 
Right. I love that.
Like, oftentimes, They'll say to my clients and not only my clients, but
you know, in general, it just comes out of my mat. Like, you're exactly where you're supposed to be.

Lorilee Binstock  00:20:30 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:20:33 
That really helps me
when On in a phone,
you know, when I am feeling, like, really,
This is really what's happening. Right.
I'm right where I'm supposed to be
and then the gratitude practice. I mean, I am the huge
huge believer
of how
and sciences proves it, you know, But of how gratitude has really
changed my life.

Lorilee Binstock  00:20:58 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:21:01 
You know, the the thing that it most importantly has led me to
is the characteristic of acceptance.

Lorilee Binstock  00:21:08 
Yeah.

Corinne Coppola  00:21:09 
Wait.
How can I be really thankful for the
turmoil of that's happening right now in my life?
You know, or in a relationship
And
then maybe not at that moment.
You know, I'm not able to see the the good in it, but still on being thanks
for it because then I
usually, it is revealed to me
that
you know,
I am able to see
what
Oh,

Lorilee Binstock  00:21:43 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:21:40 
just like what you said, you know what the purpose? Oh,
this is leading me to more forgiveness.

Lorilee Binstock  00:21:45 
Yeah

Corinne Coppola  00:21:47 
Okay.

Lorilee Binstock  00:21:49 
it's so funny how long it took me to figure that out. It took me

Corinne Coppola  00:21:51 
Mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:21:53 
so long because people be like, in just
grateful. You know, I would have those to do list, like those like, padded
to do list papers that have says, like, you know, here's your
here's a little checkbox box and here right, what you have to do
And at the top of the page, it would say,
I am grateful for blank, and I'm like, oh, that's interesting.
And I would never write it it. I would just write my list.
And I and I'm like... I never understood the
the power of gratitude and
it's also interesting because when I think about earlier in our conversation, you talked about

Corinne Coppola  00:22:28 
Mhmm.
Mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:22:29 
you know, the courts pose when when you found chance for and it's

Corinne Coppola  00:22:32 
Mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:22:33 
transformation and epiphany in that moment.
You know, before I went into treatment before I was
you know, went to residential treatment, and I would do yoga. I did... I
I did yoga for, you know,
so lengthening and strengthening and flexibility
And when we would get into And pose, I would literally sit there and think about. Okay.

Corinne Coppola  00:22:58 
Mhmm. Mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:22:56 
So what are the things I need to do today? And I never understood
the importance of Because when I went to treatment,
was like, I learned this whole idea that Is
where you're integrating
your practice. And I'm like, really? And that changed my life. It
it's funny the things that people tell you because
you know, people like, oh, exhausted is important. I'm like, oh, yeah. Rest is an important shirt, whatever.
And then I you know, you you move on and you do your thing, and then you
you realize, like,
it it just took me so long to really absorb

Corinne Coppola  00:23:33 
Okay.

Lorilee Binstock  00:23:33 
the the the practice of rest, the practice of gratitude,

Corinne Coppola  00:23:37 
Mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:23:38 
I'm telling you that really changed everything.
For me, at least

Corinne Coppola  00:23:42 
Yeah. Yeah. I hear you. You preaching to the prayer because
know, what I did used to teach public and private
the classes. You know, I would say
Is the most important pose, and
it's also something that you can take at any time you know? And
it's
something that

Lorilee Binstock  00:24:05 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:24:04 
we don't do, like, and and oftentimes,
that's what happens is we're we're resting and then everything fits
to the surface. So when people come in,
meditation retreats. It's like
you know, what they call flo straw
because people start falling asleep the first, you know, day or two because they realize
how tiring their body is.

Lorilee Binstock  00:24:28 
Yes.

Corinne Coppola  00:24:29 
You know, that it's like the had nod and
people can't stay awake, and that's just like
a normal and
you know, part of what happens it's like, oh, this is what happens when I
dial it down. And there's an officer and speaker name is
Sandra Dawn Smith. I don't know if he's... She's gonna book called sacred rest.
And
she identifies seven different types of reps, which
I can't rattle off the top of my head right now.
But I just think that is so such an interesting
perspective to look at oh, often ten pages
feel rest as like the physical, but there's also emotional rash

Lorilee Binstock  00:25:12 
Yay,

Corinne Coppola  00:25:12 
social rest, you know, all these different types of rest.
That we need, like, sometimes social recipes,
interacting with others. Sometimes social recipes means, oh, I need to pull back.
You know? And and
it's not just as you know, it's not just
what often type, like spa and
you know? No. No. No. No. No.
No. No. It can be for me, what a My
practices is between three and four o'clock every day.
I don't schedule calls or meetings
or anything between three and four so that
maybe it is used to respond to emails, but there's usually
at least a ten minute
ten minute window that I have
for myself that I have to go meditate
pray or
that I do put my head down on a pillow because
that completely
refresh us and something that I learned that you might already know
is that at three o'clock, like middle afternoon, three Homework o'clock our cortisol level.
Lore.
And

Lorilee Binstock  00:26:19 
I did not know that.

Corinne Coppola  00:26:21 
this whole practice that I started
started over the pandemic. I was noticing that... Oh, I'm
pretty tired right now. And three or four o'clock with
was the time when my second day began,
right? And I would work until three or four, and then I go pick the kids up in
school, take them to different activities go over below.
And then when that didn't happen during the pan,
I was able to listen to my body, and I was like, oh, isn't this interesting?

Lorilee Binstock  00:26:48 
Wow.

Corinne Coppola  00:26:52 
So that's how it sort of came up for me. It's not like, oh,
let me do this. It was me listening to my body.

Lorilee Binstock  00:26:56 
Yes.
Absolutely. I I... It's it's it's so... It's so hard to listen
your body when there's so many things going on.
So, yes, I think that quiet time that meditation time is
is the time for, you know, to really be able to listen to what's happening there.
I do wanna ask

Corinne Coppola  00:27:17 
Mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:27:19 
what does it take to
truly achieve
transformation.

Corinne Coppola  00:27:26 
Yeah.
First to all. That is a great question.
I when retract the word achieve.

Lorilee Binstock  00:27:35 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:27:35 
And so what does it take to a
achieve transformation because
that then makes it a goal.
Right, which we all want, like we all want
there's different
life, like, right before this call, I happen to be at a in a
yoga class, and the the teacher was just notice.
And
I said... You need to be teaching in Costa Rica, and I didn't know that she was
and
you know, how did the teacher trading program of this studio and then a little block?
She's like, well, you know, I have my kids and Da. And
I thought... Yeah. Yeah. But you can maybe go
guest teach. You know to myself. And, like, what
what could the possibilities be?
So I think one of the first things we have to get out of our own way
And when I say we have to get out of our own way,
people talk all the time about, like,
letting go of limiting beliefs.
I don't know flip that on the head, maybe and
maybe open yourself to
a possibility.
And
open yourself to the possibility of
what do I really enjoy doing? Maybe it's baking cookies.
And you start
baking cookies these a little bit more and giving them away. And then all of a sudden,
you have a cookie business.

Lorilee Binstock  00:28:59 
Yeah.

Corinne Coppola  00:29:02 
Yeah. I'm saying. Wait, It's just really
and
asking yourself the question,
if I didn't have to be perfect at
I would like to blank
Right? If I didn't need to be perfect,
what what is one thing that really lights me up?
What is the one thing? And it may be
I... You know,
and
and and it's out at this moment. Like, I didn't know when I started
on this path, like, when I started taking Yoga again,
that I would someday
be

Lorilee Binstock  00:29:43 
Mhmm

Corinne Coppola  00:29:43 
an internal family sister's practitioner, mental health coach
and running retreats. Like,
I didn't have that vision. I just knew that
taking yoga that and then maybe teaching you love because
what I did in the past,
you know, part of my job with presentation when I
worked in organization development, and I
trained people in parents management, and They trained people on
career consulting. You know? So
and and leadership development. And I... So I knew that I loved
getting up in front of groups. I had no problem doing that.
And then the passion that I had for Yoga,
because of how it was healing me and it was allowing me to be in my body.
Well, I wanted to bring that
to everybody. So then I, you know, got into a teacher training, and the teacher training about ben was
like
you know, two years long, every other weekend, I did three hundred hours. So
went out to Montana. So that's what I would say is the first step is just
share
like, be open say quietly and say,
what does really lighten me out?
Do I really love playing pick?
You know? I mean,
what do I love
doing. Do I love gathering people?
And
maybe you... Maybe you love cooking and you want to have a
Vegan cooking quad like, I'm not making this up. You know, what
What is it that
light you on a fire.
And then follow that. So that's the first
thing that I would say. And then the second thing is
acceptance.
Lake,
you know, so that you're
you're open and accepting
of
whatever is happening
in that moment, Like, I went through a water suffering, and I
still go through suffering. You know, it's not... It's not like, oh,
I'm happy go lucky and the... You know, it happens to be
a great day today on
blessed enough to be on this call with you. I went to yoga the class. I
walk the die. I did some work before all that.
You know? But it's it's having this theme
a gratitude
and when you're grateful soul throughout the day, and then your more
accepting of... Okay.
Well,
my
young
you know, my child's stark at me or my
my partner, you know,
made a really
in inappropriate comma lake
what am I doing to accept what is happening?
So that I don't have to be in suffering.
And suffering happens when
we want things to be different than than they are.
And I'm gonna hear to tell you, like, there was a day
when I was going through my divorce, but I had two hundred and sixty dollars
in my checking account,
and I'm speaking to myself.
What am I gonna do?
What am I gonna do?
So I could sit there.
And I could
complain
And I can think of all the ways that this wasn't fair.
Or
I can
the grateful form go for walk.
Shift my perspective. You know, I have a house, and my kids are healthy.
You know, I have food and
in my cover that I can make for dinner, and it's not always gonna be this
way.
Like, the two words that are helpful for transformation, I feel
are for now.
This is only happening for now.
Good bad.

Lorilee Binstock  00:33:19 
Yes.

Corinne Coppola  00:33:22 
In between
you know?
So those are some of... That's how I think I would
you know, answer your question is more around
like, acceptance being with what else.
Acceptance.
And then, you know,
for now.
And and knowing what what lights you up,
you know, what are you passionate about?
And it's if I was doing what I'm doing
now it's not like, I woke up at a bed and who's was like, oh, I'm gonna run retreats and

Lorilee Binstock  00:33:53 
Yeah

Corinne Coppola  00:33:52 
mister week. No. I didn't have something in that way. It's taken me ten years.

Lorilee Binstock  00:33:56 
mm-mm

Corinne Coppola  00:33:57 
Right. So

Lorilee Binstock  00:33:59 
Wow.

Corinne Coppola  00:33:59 
anyway,

Lorilee Binstock  00:34:01 
Did... Is this is this what you hope?
For your clients,
after they leave your retreats,

Corinne Coppola  00:34:07 
And then, absolutely, that
and and that has happened. And even, you know, just in
and when I work with clients one on one,
it can be so powerful, like I a client
this past week that she's had a lot grief in her life.
You know, three of her brothers passed away while she was growing up. I mean, it's just really
heartbreaking. And
when she came into connection,
with
her grief
And it felt like these cotton balls in her chest and that it was
just all of her heart breaks and she was able to turn towards that and have compassion
support. She's now much open
and loving in her relationship with her partner.
Because she had a fear
being in an intimate relationship
because of all the grief from now she's had in her life, and she's also were

Lorilee Binstock  00:35:02 
No.

Corinne Coppola  00:35:03 
a young widow. You know, she was a young widow. So
you know, it's really about
giving people hope
that you're hopeful about the future that they're
is a purpose to
my life, and then I can start over and
a couple of my clients that have been
to one on one retreats to me out, and she could take
they know are establishing
really thriving businesses because of some
you know, past things that they were able to let go of.
So once you clear that out, right, it's the ex of the heart.
Once we clear that out,
then it's like we can be open to the next
thing
And at the same time, during those transitions being open to the grief,
like,
I'm an empty nest, and I thought I've been an empty semester since
the fall of twenty twenty one and I thought, okay. Well,
you know, a year, I'll be, you know, on this little bit of a roller close
physically. But, you know, I gotta tell you the fall hit
of twenty twenty two, and that grief
was there a little differently, but it was still there.
So
you know, just being with
what is happening and accepting it and not pushing it away.
Right? It's really about turning towards the difficult stuff.
When we turn towards it, and we can have compassion and we stop running from it.
Then we can understand what the message is.
What that part is needing, what we're eating
So I can talk all day about this, Obviously,

Lorilee Binstock  00:36:50 
Well, It's... It's amazing.

Corinne Coppola  00:36:53 
mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:36:53 
What you're doing. And I I do wanna ask how how often do your
streets go

Corinne Coppola  00:36:57 
So

Lorilee Binstock  00:36:59 
Do you have them?

Corinne Coppola  00:37:01 
yeah. So I'm
This is the first week long that I'm doing her eight nine
eight days seven nights. This is the first what I'm doing.
All the other ones have been weekend retreats, you know, three days
two nights. I'm planning on expanding
this coming fall to doing them
four days three nights and, you know, partnering with different people.
And
after I do my one in Costa going and come back to these

Lorilee Binstock  00:37:34 
Mhmm.

Corinne Coppola  00:37:32 
post I'm actually going to be going on a road trip.
So I'll be focusing mostly
so
my online clientele and not doing any physical
and
retreats until the fall of twenty twenty three.

Lorilee Binstock  00:37:48 
Awesome.

Corinne Coppola  00:37:49 
Mhmm. Mhmm.

Lorilee Binstock  00:37:51 
Well, that's great. I will be looking for. Please keep me posted on those.
Because yeah,

Corinne Coppola  00:37:53 
I will. I will
pressure.

Lorilee Binstock  00:37:57 
and wanna hear more. Is there anything else you'd like to add?

Corinne Coppola  00:38:02 
That is such a great question.
I would like to add
and might not do this justice, but
the quote.
Like, even doing the smallest things with the greatest amount of love.

Lorilee Binstock  00:38:18 
Oh

Corinne Coppola  00:38:19 
That no matter where you are in your life right now,
How can I show up?
With the most loved for myself or the others, Like, even if it's
doing laundry.
Like, can I do this?
In a loving way in a grateful way.
And
just doing the smallest things with the greatest lives because
it's really not that hard to be kind.
And
I just went to
see a man named auto last night.
And it was just such a lovely movie.
In terms of how
in terms of, like, a testament to how kindness
small kindness.
Can change your life and save a life.

Lorilee Binstock  00:39:03 
Mhmm.
Yeah. I

Corinne Coppola  00:39:05 
Say that's really what I would say. Is just even in the
smallest ways, like,
It so might sound corny, but right, before you pick up the phone to make a call,
that has to be potentially
honor, like a service calls for an Internet problem.
Right? Can you smile?
And send the person live on the other side because
they're doing the best they can too.

Lorilee Binstock  00:39:32 
Yeah.

Corinne Coppola  00:39:33 
So

Lorilee Binstock  00:39:34 
Yeah.

Corinne Coppola  00:39:34 
Yeah.

Lorilee Binstock  00:39:36 
Well,
Current, thank you so much. I really appreciate you joining me today.

Corinne Coppola  00:39:41 
Thank you, Laura. It's been
real real deep honor and
for your for you to extend me your invitation and
to have the opportunity to write
an article for your magazine. I'm just so honored

Lorilee Binstock  00:39:57 
You... I honored for you to join us.
And let me... Am I saying your name right? Career?

Corinne Coppola  00:40:03 
Yes.
Lorilee Binstock  00:40:05 
I got it. Alright.
Corinne Coppola  00:40:07 
You got it more.