83. 3 Communication Habits that Undermine Loving Long-term Relationships

“These three communication habits lead to a gradual dismissal or devaluation of your partner. And when you dismiss or devalue your partner, your relationship will not last, let alone thrive,” shares host Alejandra. Whether you are currently in a relationship or would like to be one in the future, it is important to understand your communication habits. A healthy relationship relies on healthy communication. Today, Alejandra shares three communication habits to refrain from if you want to have a loving long-term relationship. 

 

The first habit to refrain from is constantly pointing out what is lacking in your relationship instead of ever acknowledging the good things. The next habit to avoid is teasing or embarrassing your partner in public. Lastly, refrain from the tendency to sweep problems under the rug. If you always sweep issues under the metaphorical rug, you’re not  having an open, honest conversation with your partner. These habits cause your partner to feel devalued, and ultimately it’s unlikely that your relationship will last.

 

Loving communication is the key to unlocking a long-lasting relationship. Learn the communication habits you should refrain from if you want to maintain a healthy, thriving relationship.

Quotes:

• "Whether you are in a committed relationship now, or you'd like to be in one in the future, it's crucial to know how you are communicating, because the health and wellbeing of a loving relationship depends on the quality of your communication." (1:53-2:10 | Alejandra) 

• “If every time your partner recognizes their limitation or apologizes to you, and that's not enough for you, it's very likely that your partner will feel less and less confident that they can repair the connection with you. And it's likely that in the future, the apologies will be few and far between.” (6:07-6:31 | Alejandra)

• “Refrain from teasing or embarrassing your partner in public.” (7:35-7:39 | Alejandra)

• “When you sweep things under the rug, you don't talk about what matters. You don't let your partner know when you are upset, disappointed, frustrated, when something's not working for you. And maybe you think that you don't want to offend your partner. And that's why you don't say anything, and you may even pretend everything is okay. But the problem is that under that metaphoric rug, especially if you've been in this relationship for years, under that metaphoric rug, there is a lot of resentment built up. And when resentment grows, you may not even notice this, but it slips out periodically in communication in the form of passive aggression.” (9:13-10:51 | Alejandra) 

• “These three communication habits lead to a gradual dismissal or devaluation of your partner. And when you dismiss or devalue your partner, your relationship will not last, let alone thrive.” (15:08-15:25 | Alejandra)

 

Links

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