89. 7 Communication Tools You Need to Use When You Talk to Women

“If you want to change this old, outdated, and inaccurate paradigm that women are inferior and men are superior, and you want to change this societal habit, then you need to take responsibility,” explains host Alejandra, transformative communication teacher and coach. Today, Alejandra shares seven transformative tools you can use to communicate in a way that is in alignment with your value of respect for women.

 

In order to honor women and reinforce the ideals of equality and equity, it is important to really look at the way you communicate with women. We have all been conditioned to communicate in ways that devalue women, and changing that requires a conscious effort. You can more effectively communicate with women in a way that is more respectful by taking notice of their body language and facial expressions, truly listening and not interrupting with unsolicited advice or opinions, and speaking up when a man takes credit for a woman’s ideas. 

 

If you are in a situation where men are speaking over women, or women are too shy to speak their minds, or someone is belittling a woman for being in touch with her feelings, take responsibility and say something. Many times, this behavior is so ingrained that people communicate in disrespectful ways unconsciously. By speaking up and drawing attention to it, you can empower women so that their voices can be heard.

 

Quotes

• “We've all been conditioned to communicate with women in ways that tend to hurt women or to give women the message that we are less than men or that we're not enough.” (4:11-4:22 | Alejandra) 

• “Notice women's body language and facial expressions as others are speaking.” (5:07-5:11 | Alejandra)

• “If you want to change this old, outdated, and inaccurate paradigm that women are inferior and men are superior, and you want to change this societal habit, then you need to take responsibility.” (9:17-9:33 | Alejandra)

• “Life will be much richer for you, when you learn to have access to your feelings and communicate them out loud.” (13:19-13:26 | Alejandra)

• “When you interrupt a woman to give her unsolicited advice, you are playing the role of protector. A woman telling you something stressful doesn't mean you need to perpetuate the patriarchal archetype of the damsel in distress.” (18:20-18:35 | Alejandra)

 

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