10 | Creating Boundaries: How to SET, ENFORCE, and MAINTAIN them so you can STOP Being a Pushover & Start Gaining Self Respect

Today we talk about the in’s and out’s of boundary setting, boundary enforcement, and boundary maintenance. I’ll teach you crucial steps that will help you minimize conflict so you don’t have to feel like a broken record and keep having the same friction points in your relationships.

I’ll teach you where you need to take more ownership and how you can do it in easy ways that require LESS WORK than your current patterns that never seem to work. 

You’ll learn top boundary setting tools that therapists like my husband and I use today and you’ll learn from other experts like Henry Cloud, Sharon and Gordon Bower, Adelyn Birch, and Anna Taylor. 

Today you'll learn several tactical steps to start applying immediately. If you want greater growth, grab your journal and start listening because this is what you need to improve family peace, enlarge your self respect, and increase your energy level and joy at home. 

I know you'll find amazing growth in the application of these principles!

Enjoy!

-Kendra

 

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A boundary is a clear line that marks limits and can tell you where to stop. In any relationship, boundaries define where things like your identity, responsibility, and control begin and end. It is communicating what your values are and how you’ll protect them when they are threatened or violated.  Simply put, a boundary is a line that won't be crossed & what you will & won't tolerate.

“Boundaries need to be communicated first verbally and then with actions.” -Henry Cloud (author and psychologist)

“Boundaries protect the things that are of value to you. They keep you in alignment with what you have decided you want in life. That means the key to good boundaries is knowing what you want.” -Adelyn Birch (Author)

“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” -Anna Taylor (author)

Boundary Tips: 1. It’s okay to say no, 2. Protecting your boundary creates self respect, 3. It's ok if others don't agree with you; It's not their value, 4. It's not your job to fix others or make them happy; you can only control yourself, 5. Be flexible but not a pushover, 6. Boundaries are not punishments but a protective fence, 7. It's not your partner's responsibility to maintain or enforce your boundary

Sharon and Gordon Bower and the DESC formula: Describe, Express, Specify and Consequences.