Many people use their relationship to numb pain. By this, I don't mean to ease the pain of being lonely, but to cover over a deeper level of hurt or fear that they're afraid to touch. They can feel like the relationship fills a void inside them or that their partner is saving them. By exploring their story and looking at early attachment patterns, they can begin to make sense of their personal perceptions and expectations in relationships. THey can develop self compassion for whatever pain led to their patterns , and start to shift those patterns, and start to enjoy stronger relationships that they feel safe and secure within themselves in.
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