How do you address a problem with a conflict avoidant person?

This was an interesting discussion to have with three people who don’t mind conflict and will jump right into or even invite a challenging conversation.

 

Gary Fredericks tries to start by finding common ground, something that can be agreed upon, to show he is as interested in their success as they are.

 

Inga Hebdon added that it depends on what you are trying to address. It is different if you have to deal directly with them versus helping them deal with a conflict within their team. But regardless, people who want to avoid conflict often are just looking for peace and avoidance is an easy way to achieve that, at least for a little longer (until it grows and explodes).

 

Bill Haase brought in the word empathy and then took it in a direction I didn’t expect by adding that narcissistic people will use avoidance and your empathy against you. Adding that HR protocols that require everyone be treated the same can make it even more challenging because everyone is different.

 

You have heard me talk about the volcano method to conflict resolution – push it down until it explodes.

 

Do you think that warning someone – “I know you don’t love these kinds of conversations” is a good idea?

 

What tips do you have if someone else is avoidant? Or if you are conflict avoidant, how do you like to have people interact with you?

 

Connect with the panelists:
Inga Hebdon https://www.linkedin.com/in/inga-hebdon/

Leadership & Personal Impact Coach helping people increase their impact, their ability to lead, influence, and act strategically.

 

Gary Fredericks: https://www.linkedin.com/in/garyfredericks/

CEO of On Point Partners where they provide back-office services for small businesses. They make business easy.

 

Bill Haase: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bill-haase-a506299/

Co-Founder/CEO MetaEd Partners. He is developing global virtual and live conferences to support the underprivileged and building programs in the US to help high school students understand how money works.

 

Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

AKA Mental MacGyver. My doctorate is in organizational business psychology with a concentration in sport and performance. I provide luxury level, high performance support and coaching to executives, founders, celebrities and athletes.

 

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