Growing Up and Knowing Ourselves

In today’s solo episode, Victoria responds to Patreon Community questions about resistance to growing up and learning to connect to our wants, needs, and values.

Sharing anecdotes from her life, she reflects on core fears and beliefs inside the aversion to responsibility and adulthood, and discusses gentle approaches to examining the invitations inside our existential anxieties.

She also shares approaches to developing a stronger relationship with ourselves, even when we feel very disconnected, and to making decisions while holding space for ambivalence.

References:

• Perennials Podcast
• The four givens of existential psychotherapy
• Section from Walt Whitman’s Song of Myself: “I contain multitudes”
• “Make a decision, then make it right” Instagram post
• Window of tolerance 
• Being in a state of "flow"
• Rainer Maria Rilke’s Letters to a Young Poet