30 - What to do When You Discover Infidelity in Your Marriage

Have you ever found yourself the position to ask the questions: I just discovered my husband texting other women - what do I do? Or, I just discovered infidelity, what do I do next?

Getting connected to helpful resources quickly can make the biggest difference in recovery for BOTH partners. Patrick and Kylene talk about how to approach this situation when it comes up in your relationship and below they have included links to their favorite resources for both individuals to get started on their healing journey! 

For addict:

1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or coach that works virtually (here are some starting places)

www.puredesire.org

Additional resources: https://www.drpatrickcarnes.com/getting-help

Boulder Recovery (2 week recovery intensive)

Beginagaininstitute.com

 

3) Connect to a local recovery group (we like the conquer group that you can find locally or online both at puredesire.org and soulrefiner.com

www.samsonsociety.com 

 

4) Read books and listen to recovery podcasts:

• RecoverU podcast
• Pure Desire podcast
• Pure Desire book by Ted Roberts
• Clean by Doug Weiss
• Unwanted- Jay Stringer

 

 

For the betrayed spouse:

1) Connect with a trauma therapist or coach who is familiar with sex addiction and works with betrayal trauma recovery  - look for someone who also has trauma processing modalities outside of talk therapy

 

If you are interested in working with Kylene please click this link and book a free connection call to see if it’s a good fit:

https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

 

2) Connect with local, or online groups:

• Cosa
• Sanon
• Betrayal and Beyond - puredesire.org
• Infidelity survivors anonymous
• www.btr.org

 

3) Ready books and listen to recovery podcasts:

• RecoverU podcast 
• Pure Desire podcast
• Intimate Deception. Sheri Keffer
• Facing Heartbreak - Stephanie Carnes
• RISE- Misty Terrell