Domestic Violence Homicide: Are Men and Women Treated the Same?

Would you be shocked if I told you that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been slapped, shoved, pushed, or worse by an intimate partner? Or that in the U.S., over 50% of all homicides are domestic violence related? That’s why when a woman is murdered, police naturally look at her husband or boyfriend. But when a man is killed, do they always look at the woman in his life?

Welcome to another episode of The Unlovely Truth. I’m your host, private investigator Lori Morrison. Join me for another captivating true crime story, where physical, spiritual, and emotional safety takeaways are waiting for us. If you are listening, I believe you have a unique calling—to become a different kind of PI, not a typical private investigator, but a person of impact!

This is Season 4, Episode 37. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, so we are going to be investigating cases where people who were supposed to love someone did just the opposite. 

We’ve all heard stories of women who, after years of abuse, killed the husband or boyfriend who has terrorized them. What we don’t often hear are stories of men who fight back after years of abuse from their wives or girlfriends. We’re going to hear two of those stories today, and see if these men are treated the same as their female counterparts.

According to the ACLU, the average prison sentence of men who kill their female partners is 2 to 6 years. Women who kill their partners are sentenced on average to 15 years. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline website, more than 12 million women and men over the course of a single year are victims of rape, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner in the United States. That’s an average of 24 people per minute. Two-thirds of female stalking victims were stalked by current or former intimate partners. And the fallout spreads to others like ripples in a pond.

Proverbs 20:10 GOD’S WORD Translation

A double standard of weights and measures—both are disgusting to the Lord.

I believe that God hates corruption and favoritism. We all have opportunities to speak out against unfairness when we see it.  The Bible verse I chose for this episode is from Proverbs chapter 20  and it's verse 10. I'm going to read from the God's word translation. 

 A double standard of weights and measures. Both are disgusting to the Lord. 

 I love that plain, very visceral language of this translation. Because I believe that it shows us so clearly. How much God hates corruption and favoritism. 

Not all of these victims were treated. In accordance to the facts of the situation. People had agendas. There are inherent biases in how men and women are treated in these situations. And you've taken the first step. Toward helping. You've listened to this and you've educated yourself on what some of the problems are. And I think we all in our lives have opportunities to speak out against unfairness. When we see it. And I hope that you will be looking for opportunities. To stand up. And help a victim of domestic violence. Not all of them are going to admit that this is an issue they're struggling with. But if you suspect something. Just make sure that that person knows that you are a safe person to talk to. You don't need to fix their problem. You just need to listen. And then you can tell them. I'm not sure what the answer is, but I will help you find it.

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