Everyone's a critic. But when you're on the receiving end, it can be painful to hear you have room for improvement. This episode is your definitive guide to separating constructive criticism from the destructive kind. Learn how to move past anger guilt and shame triggers to leverage feedback and how to question unfair and confusing accusations.
- If criticism is specific, solution oriented and based on your actions in a given situation, it is constructive.
- Constructive criticism as useful. If you are triggered by it and become defensive, you lose an opportunity to grow as a person and a professional. Being triggered is not a sign that the criticism is destructive
- If criticism feels confusing, unfair or attacks your worth as a person, it is destructive.
- Destructive criticism is about making you feel bad and holding you back. It shows up as projection of behavior that the critic exhibits onto you and can sound like accusations. Destructive criticism can be disguised as advice to not pursue and opportunity because it's too difficult or you're not ready.
- Always get a second or third opinion to help frame the criticism in proper context.
- Remember that negative criticism is never about you. Don't accept unfair comments or discriminatory feedback.
Stay Inspired,
Angela
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